I think mine just see me coming!
Ex husband was emotional abusive, and still is. List of many things.....He allowed me to go see my sister overseas, when we had just split. Whilst I was away, he trashed my house, placed mouldy and dirty pots pans etc (don't even know where he got them from) all over the home, clothes, toys, etc all over floors, sides, stairs, etc and telephoned social services and told them I had left the children, and the house in that state.
When moving out of home, he took everything, even the lock off the garden gate.
Financially abused me after marriage had ended, made me split all money with him, including child benefit and tax credits. I had to see him weekly to draw the money out and give it to him.
Refused to let me see disabled son for three months, due to plates and pins being placed in ankle, had to get social services, and a letter off an occupational therapist to write me a letter that seeing as people with severe disabilities are able to parent their child, just because I needed 18 months worth of treatment, I wasn't deemed unfit.
Emotionally abused daughter, who now lives full time with me, still withholding child benefit number and won't give it to me, as she may come back. She won't, and has told him endlessly, even though every visit she chooses to make, or txt message sent is a guilt trip for her.
Told my children at the ages of 4 and 2 that our marriage ended and I had an affair.
Our son has a life limiting illness and has required multiple life threatening operations, everytime discusses what will he do if he dies, what money he would lose, and how he would have to go back to work.
Five years ago, got into a relationship, and has now remarried. He messaged our self harming, emotionally unstable 12 year old daughter, on mother's day, and was shitty with her because she hadn't txt his wife to see if she had a nice mother's day. (I fully appreciate she chose the role as a step mum, however hasn't any children) and one of the main reasons why our daughter has chosen not to live with them both anymore, is that they are both emotionally abusive.
Stated to daughter when she chose to live with me full time, well don't think I'll be seeing you every other weekend, as I still need a life. Have you even thought about the effect of you doing this, will have on your disabled brother, and finally well your mum will probably take your brother off me now, so may aswell move away with stepmum and start a new life.
Started work full time two years ago, and told the children the day before, he had joint custody and the children didn't cope with the extreme change of seeing their dad so often, to barely seeing them.
Hasn't paid a penny in child maintenance, and believes he really doesn't have too, even though if I make a claim, I would be entitled to over £200 a month.
Makes the children strip out of my clothes and shoes as soon as they walk in his house, and then sends them back in dirty, too small for them clothes.
Does not see what he is doing to our daughter, and thinks she has something wrong with her.
Ex partner never even raised his voice in an argument, but when we split, due to a secret drug addiction I knew nothing about until the end, stole my tv, smashed my house up repeatedly, stalked and harrased me for months, stole my handbag and fractured my ribs in the process, put windows through in house. Emotionally and physically abused me for months, eventually was caught by police (skipped bail twice) and received restraining order and suspended sentence.
Happily married now....yet unfortunately still have to deal with exhusband. Am not the same person I was many years ago and he hates the fact he cannot manipulate me anymore.
When I have written just a snippet of what the past held, it hits home, how far I've come. Im sorry to all OP who have had to deal with their own battles caused by someone else.