"Why havent I got a daddy?"

[Bugsymalonemumof2]

Split with their dad when oldest was just two and youngest 10 weeks. Have a no contact order granted by the courts. The oldest is 4 in 3 weeks and today ask why she hasnt got a daddy.

Whay the hell do you say that isnt "your daddy was an abusive cock who nearly killed us all several times over"

She has taken me by surprise

I think it's best to say "You have got a Daddy, his name is Tom but he had a lot of problems and that meant that sadly, he wasn't able to be a Daddy in the right way."

This is of course not a lie...it's just a gentler way of beginning to introduce the facts.

I wouldn't consider telling her what he was really like in truth until she's around 18 or so. Drip feeding little by little is a safer way.