Why does he keep lying to DD about his contact?

[babycham75]

Soon to be EXH is settled down with a new partner, bought a house, seems happy. I'm glad for him as he had a turbulent childhood which ultimately caused the end of our marriage.
We have a ten year old DD. Very smart, very aware. Absolutely fine with us being apart - I left and took her with me when she was 4.
He regularly says he's tried to FaceTime when he blatantly has not. I asked him today contact her yesterday as we hadn't heard from him all weekend and she was a bit upset by it.
Usual response. "She doesn't answer when I call."
DD has no missed FaceTime calls - then, conveniently, when he's confronted, FaceTime bursts into life and starts working. Funny eh?
I could strangle him. Does he think we're both stupid?

Yes he does.

Massive solidarity babycham, I am currently seething over the exact same thing. He says i don't reply to text messages that he had sent - but I have not received any. He has lied about the red book of communication too, says that I have not sent it. I check it immediately upon return so I know that it has gone with the children.

Aargh! Whatever the motive they think we are stupid enough to believe the lies. - Has your DD twigged the muppetry?

She is. She was quite upset last night.
Should I call him out? Don't want an argument.

I would call him out. I'd say "neither me nor dd are stupid. She has no missed FaceTime calls. Stop this lying before you seriously alienate dd".

If he says it again, I'll confront him.
He's 42 FFS

Why not nip this by making dd facetime him instead?

Haven't a clue I'm afraid. With my ex he will lie about lying, if I challenge that lie (and those following) it turns into a brain spin no win argument. However I feel that he then gets away with it and so will continue which makes me inclined to pull him up. Already in the confusion.

I'm going to e-mail the twit and reasonably politely suggest he checks my number as i have received no texts from him since

Dammit - pressed send..
No texts from him in over a month.

The way I see it is there is no right way of handling this, but someone once said that if there is no right way there's probably no wrong way either.