How did you feel when divorce was final?

[whatnextfred]

I got my decree absolute yesterday. I was sad and thoughtful and got pissed.

Today I feel unburdened. Free. Lighter.

Really fucking relieved.

Do you just get it through the post? How long between starting the divorce process and getting it finalised? Im 20 months in and nowhere near that.

About 12 months. We had finances agreed and exh admitted adultery. Solicitor emailed, got it in mail today

Today! There has to be some irony, in fact.

I was helping ex. His washing machine has broken. I was loading his dirty underpants in my machine when he asked if I had seen the decree absolute! My copy hasn’t arrived yet

What this proves is that an incompetent husband is not made competent through divorce.

I feel a tiny bit special somehow. Like gaining membership to a special club. And it’s quite cool we are still friends (loosely!)

Meant to add, took about 5 months but no quibbles and barely used the courts.

Congrats littlepill

Thank you, whatnext You too, congratulations!

I feel lighter, too. And excited. Who knows what the future holds...?

Filed in September, received decree absolute first week of feb 😀

Did it all myself as no assets - just a house that I'm have TOE and remortgaging - feeling all grown up!

Feels weird actually being divorced after being separated for nearly 3 years.

Congrats everyone else that's through it!

I felt an enormously sense of relief and sadness all in one go. I felt empowered, relieved, vulnerable and to be honest shocked (Evan though I filed for divorce).

I loved being married and i loved being a wife. But divorce for me is the only option. He is a nasty bastard.

'A wedding ring is the smallest handcuff youll ever wear.'

Sound familiar?

For me it felt like when I had paid off my student loan. I'd gone through years of shit and then you just get a letter through the post and it's done. I feel I should have had it accompanied by balloons and champagne, or at least a congratulatory something. As it is, mine just hit the doormat, I read it, put it somewhere and that's it done. (I also then got drunk. )

Elated

I had a party planned and a new dress to wear - in reality I cancelled the party and cried for a week. Not because I missed him or anything but I was so exhausted and broken from what I'd been through as part of the divorce process.

Two years separation, then I filed for divorce. The divorce took about four months. It helped that i worked in the solicitors office 😀👍

I want to post this here for us to smile a bit: divorced

Sounds like we have all pulled through it really well!

Whoops!
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I felt sad, despite by that point it was long over (years) and I was living with my new partner.

People keep asking if I am having a party... although I'm very relieved it's behind me I don't feel like it should be celebrated. And yes, it is sad

absolutely nothing - well except maybe glad that i didn't have to pay for it anymore

Relieved for sure, there was a new sense of freedom and meant I could marry my now DH.

Like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders

I felt relieved. And I also felt the same when DP got his last week.

Relieved
Free!
Exhausted...

Best thing I've done in a long long time

I didn't really feel anything. Just "oh!"

In fairness we had been separated for 10 years before we got divorced (just never got round to it / hated each other enough!) so it was a bit of an anti climax when it happened. We are still friends and had a collaborative divorce with just one solicitor. It coast £500

A bit underwhelmed. Don't know what I was expecting.....
Mine took 6 months so not drawn out. Never looked back.