How did you feel when divorce was final?

[whatnextfred]

I got my decree absolute yesterday. I was sad and thoughtful and got pissed.

Today I feel unburdened. Free. Lighter.

[Minime85]

Better

[Onlyoldontheoutside]

Mine came through on valentine's Day.Spoke to him on the phone.
We are still selling the marital home so not finished with him yet.It took 2 years in total so all it really meant was no more solicitors bills.

[AnneLovesGilbert]

Free. Like I’d grown wings and my new life would be colourful and happy.

It’s normal to feel a bit mixed about it though. I had many awful moment as it was going through. He was a nightmare to deal with but I married him with every intention of spending the rest of my life with him, I’d taken my vows incredibly seriously and we’d been together years so it definitely felt like a failure and a grieving process.

[lifebegins50]

Close to 2 years and Absolute should be through soon.

#ferriswheel, you have described my feelings.I had to divorce ex but don't feel gleeful about it.
Sadly he is still finding issues to drive conflict so legal process not at an end yet.

I would have liked to stay married and been in the 50% of marriages that worked.

[HRTpatch]

A bit underwhelmed. Don't know what I was expecting.....
Mine took 6 months so not drawn out. Never looked back.

[BitOutOfPractice]

I didn't really feel anything. Just "oh!"

In fairness we had been separated for 10 years before we got divorced (just never got round to it / hated each other enough!) so it was a bit of an anti climax when it happened. We are still friends and had a collaborative divorce with just one solicitor. It coast £500

[purplelass]

Relieved
Free!
Exhausted...

Best thing I've done in a long long time

[GrandTheftWalrus]

I felt relieved. And I also felt the same when DP got his last week.

[starryeyed19]

Like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders

[QueenofSerene]

Relieved for sure, there was a new sense of freedom and meant I could marry my now DH.

[deardinah]

absolutely nothing - well except maybe glad that i didn't have to pay for it anymore

[whatnextfred]

People keep asking if I am having a party... although I'm very relieved it's behind me I don't feel like it should be celebrated. And yes, it is sad

[Chasingsquirrels]

I felt sad, despite by that point it was long over (years) and I was living with my new partner.

[littlepill]

Whoops!
Here:

[littlepill]

I want to post this here for us to smile a bit: divorced

Sounds like we have all pulled through it really well!

[LadyB49]

Two years separation, then I filed for divorce. The divorce took about four months. It helped that i worked in the solicitors office 😀👍

[HabituallyOptimistic]

I had a party planned and a new dress to wear - in reality I cancelled the party and cried for a week. Not because I missed him or anything but I was so exhausted and broken from what I'd been through as part of the divorce process.

[PickAChew]

Elated

[YoucancallmeVal]

For me it felt like when I had paid off my student loan. I'd gone through years of shit and then you just get a letter through the post and it's done. I feel I should have had it accompanied by balloons and champagne, or at least a congratulatory something. As it is, mine just hit the doormat, I read it, put it somewhere and that's it done. (I also then got drunk. )

[ferriswheel]

I loved being married and i loved being a wife. But divorce for me is the only option. He is a nasty bastard.

'A wedding ring is the smallest handcuff youll ever wear.'

Sound familiar?

[mrssapphirebright]

I felt an enormously sense of relief and sadness all in one go. I felt empowered, relieved, vulnerable and to be honest shocked (Evan though I filed for divorce).

[NoGoodAtHousework]

Filed in September, received decree absolute first week of feb 😀

Did it all myself as no assets - just a house that I'm have TOE and remortgaging - feeling all grown up!

Feels weird actually being divorced after being separated for nearly 3 years.

Congrats everyone else that's through it!

[littlepill]

Thank you, whatnext You too, congratulations!

I feel lighter, too. And excited. Who knows what the future holds...?

[whatnextfred]

Congrats littlepill

[littlepill]

Meant to add, took about 5 months but no quibbles and barely used the courts.