Do STBXH left a week before xmas. Didn't see it coming at all. He apparently had a breakdown, then refused to come home. Now he's just being cruel and unusual...it was all my fault he left...he's happier than he's ever been...he's not doing a single thing to 'benefit me'..rescinding on previously agreed responsibilities. Now the latest is he's chosen to work on the days he's supposed to have contact with the kids and told me a) I need to organise childcare for him (and pay for it) and b) give up some of my time with the kids for visitation rights in lieu. Anyone else had experience with this???