So... stbex knows I'm not happy and couples counselling failed miserably (just proved how little effort he put into our relationship). I am getting closer to being brave enough to instigate seperation but don't know where to start. Our eldest has sats in a few weeks so not going to start the conversation before then but what can I do in the mean time? Where do I go for advice regarding finances ? (We own a house together which I'd be devastated if I have to leave). Are there any pieces of information I need if I do go down the divorce route ? He handles all bills / accounts etc - we pay the same amount into a joint account each month which bills come out of. I have no access to this as it is done online and I've never had / needed a card. Our earnings are fairly similar but he works more hours than me - I wonder if I need to look at a full time job if I'm to keep the house 😕 I haven't told my family about my plans yet , and while friends are supportive they either don't have experience or aren't close to talk to. Any tips on handling the logistics would be much appreciated