Ex refusal to see kids

[J1986]

My ex husband has decided he wants to take me to court to see the kids (6&10) the problem with that is he won't see them anyway!?!? I have been trying and asking everyday for him to see them whether it be just for tea or a stay over and he always says no, he tells me he has been advised that whilst he's waiting to take me to court to gain access (which has never been denied) he is not to see them at all!?!? He says he misses them and loves them but he won't have them until it's sorted. This has been going on for nearly 6 months now and the kids are missing him. Ive bought my son a mobile so he can keep contact but he even ignores them calls from him 90% of the time. I am booked in for family mediation this week but I don't know what to do in the meantime? How do i tell the kids without breaking their hearts? Totally stuck

@J1986 I don't think you're asking for too much at all. You've got to go for what you want and what you think is best for your children.

My ex was off all weekend just gone and he said he could not have DD10 Friday or Saturday night as he was out but he told her (not me) that he would see her Sunday afternoon. We get to 4pm Sunday and not a word and then she gets a text to say he's in the pub and he wont get the chance to see her but she can go there for tea tonight!

It's a weird dispute, I want him to have the children and he's refusing to see them... But he's taking me to court for access to them.