Imagining their new life

[20thCenturyGirl]

Does anyone else find themselves creating a whole new perfect life for the spouse who left them complete with beautiful new partner who is always there and always says the right things, sunshine and roses etc.
Is this really how their lives will be?

Yes I do this too. Plus him having further kids and being involved and a family man in the way I always desperately wanted him to be. And no doubt earning loads more as opposed to me supporting him.

Who knows if it will be the case. I guess you just have to hope you get to a place where it wouldn’t matter if he did. It is hard though

I do the same. It's torture, and thinking of him charming(smarming!) her family and friends. It's the not really knowing what they're up to and the not wanting to know! At the moment no doubt it's all sweetness and light- we can only hope reality creeps into their imaginary world. X

I don’t feel like this at all - my ex doesn’t seem to have changed and whoever he ends up with is welcome to his Eeyorish tendancies, guilt-tripping and laziness. But I left him, I don’t know if that makes a difference.

Yep. He'll do it again to her. You just wait.

I sometimes wonder whether XH will stay with his new DW. I hope they do stay together as he's not actually a bad personal, just a bit of an idiot in various ways

I can't imagine him not staying with her now he's risked everything but I still hope the blinkers come off soon and they see themselves for what they really are .

My ex got a new gf five months after we broke up. He can't understand why I'm upset about it. It's 9 months since we broke up now.
Ever day has been like torture and I want to just run away and never see him again but can't because we have a child together. I can't bare him putting her first, even before seeing his son.
He's so over me that he said I could sleep with his best mate for all he cares!
I'm sure she's getting the best of him, which makes it even worse.
I have frequent nightmares where I'm desperately trying to get him back - even though he made me unhappy when we were together too.

Some days I torture myself with thoughts of what he is doing, we split early January after I found photos of a woman on hi PC, things weren't great between us , but I wanted to work at it, he didn't obviously , he goes to see her every weekend went off with flowers and a whip ( for sex) of all things after 5 weeks, I am hoping it fizzles out, but he will be on his very best behaviour, some days I am thankful to get rid of him other days I miss him and feel on a roller coaster of emotion, which is hurting me, but I know longer term I'll be better than ok