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Financial settlement being deliberately drawn out.

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YouGetLessForMurder · 18/11/2017 10:38

So the question is, how do I put an end to this without selling myself down the river?!?!

STBXH (if only the “soon” was accurate!!) moved out 4.5years ago. He has been unacceptabley slow in responding to solicitors emails. It took over a year to get his Form E, by which time it was out of date. However, 6 months ago we agreed the percentage split of the house, the pension and triggers for sale. Just the final bits needed agreeing. It took 4 months for him to respond, and when he did, he has decided that all agreements are off and we need to start negotiations again, taking great delight in explaining the words “without prejudice” (as if I didn’t know!!).
It has cost me £11k so far, I really need to make it stop.
What can I do?
We did mediation right at the beginning of the split and any agreement we made, he has said he won’t do. So I am slightly reluctant to go down this route.
The goalposts are moving so much, I feel dizzy!!

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MrsBertBibby · 18/11/2017 11:16

Just issue your form A and get to court. £11K? That's a crazy amount for your lawyer to have let you spend without issuing.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 19/11/2017 07:11

Agree with pp. issue court proceedings. What sort of split are you looking for financially? Is it 50/50?

NameWithChange · 19/11/2017 09:42

I've had this exact problem. And all the while the house (I bought) has gone up in value and his share has increased! Getting to Court is the only option, there is a time frame to be adhered to. It is still drawn out, stressful and expensive. It is SHIT. But with hindsight I wish I had done it years ago because at least this drawn out controlling torture of me and the children at his hands would have been over.

I know it is scary. Good luck 💐

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