Financial settlement- am I being fair?

[motheroreily]

I've been married 7 years, but separated for 2. I moved out, my husband stays in the house. I stopped paying into mortgage when I moved out as I couldn't afford mortgage and rent.

My husband paid the deposit on the house (£13k). I've paid for things like new windows, I haven't kept a record of it but probably about £3-£4K.

My solicitor says I should get 50% of the equity. My husband is offering 50% of what the value was when I moved out 2 years ago less his deposit.

I know the starting point is 50/50. But I don't know if I'm being reasonable pushing for that much.

We have one child who lives with me in the week and goes to him at weekends. We both work and earn around the same £28k. He pays maintenance and I pay all childcare plus rent on my flat. if I took what he's offering me I could get a mortgage and hopefully by a two bed flat but there's not many that come up at that price.

I just struggle to know what to do. I feel very guilty for ruining his life - I didn't cheat or anything I was very unhappy and he wouldn't leave so I did. I think the guilt is making me weak.

[Ineedfun]

Given you are paying all the childcare costs and have the costs of being the resident parent you should go for at least 50/50. Agree with Kitty he sounds like an arsehole.