Stay or Move House - WWYD?

[Retepetite1]

Seems like me & STBXH have 2 choices - WWYD?
We are being civil, if maybe not amicable! Sharing child care 60:40 to me.

1. STAY in house
   Force a charge/Mescher order on house, until kids old enough
   I can afford the mortgage, but not to buy him out. I am self-employed.
   For - Kids (9&6) stay in good local school
   Against - ExH would have to rent for 12 years (not enough left-over to buy) - expensive property area. Is this fair on him & my kids (they deserve a home with him too)

2. SELL - Move to near my parents (40mins drive away)
   Won't affect kids seeing ExH as he is equal distance away
   I can't afford to buy in area on my own - too expensive.
   For - Financial independence ! ExH can then get his equity (about 25%)
   Against - Kids have to move schools & schools in new area are over-subscribed so school place not guaranteed. This seems so unfair to them when they are so happy. Plus I will have to start-over with making friends in area.

I literally can't decide on which to push for. I can argue either way - I just need to figure out what I want!!! ExH can't wait to be shot of me (after his EA)! But is being fair financially & we have agreed child maintenance.

Anyone else finding all this stuff paralysing? Some days I just stare at blank walls, my mind in over-drive.

Can you moved twenty minutes away and get cheaper? Then the kids could stay in their schools. A twenty min drive is ok...even a thirty really.

Least change for the kids surely the best - you might find in a year or two they are up for a move but new family set-up, new home AND new school is a lot of stress, if there's an alternative.

Stay in the house, it would be better for your kids. Yes your ex will have to rent for 12 years but once you sell he will have a good deposit to buy x

Could you agree to move at another stage - e.g. When your second DC starts secondary school - so no extra school changes and ex only renting for 5 years?