CSM and Kids Sports

[hazel1910]

The Dementor pays CSM for my 2 boys. He has stated that from that money, I pay for all the kids sports e.g. subs, registration fees, sports equipment etc.

My kids play cricket for 3 sometimes 4 teams, badminton, football and hockey and this can add up to a lot of money being spent in a week.

Can anyone tell me what the CSM money has to actually cover in regards to the kids?7

AIBU by saying I will not put the money into paying for their sports?

No he can't tell you what the money is spent on

CSM goes into your family pot and supports the children. I think what you are actually asking is can you ask him to contribute to the subs. You can ask, but he does not have to contribute.

You are right, he can't tell you how to spend your cm.

But you can't make him contribute to the sports. If you don't want to pay for them, and neither does he, they can stop doing them. It's not an essential expense.

Dh pays for sc's sports, if he didn't, they wouldn't go as their mum isn't interested in sport.

How important is it to you that they continue?

Agree with lonecat unless I've got the wrong end of the stick. He can't dictate what the money's spent on, but you can't make him pay for anything on top of what he gives you for the DC.

If you both want them doing sports you can ask him how he intends to contribute additionally, but that's all.

Hi and thanks for all your replies.

I don't mind my kids playing sport but three cricket teams is a bit extreme even to my mind. I pointed out that I don't class sports as a necessity in their daily lives and that keeping a roof over their head is, along with food and clothing.

To my mind he is paying the legal minimum and that sport comes as an extra.

If the sports aren't a necessity then knock them on the head.

If he wants them to attend all these clubs then he will need to pay. He cannot dictate what you do with the maintenance you receive.