Posting for colleague.
She's been married 35 years, 2 adult dcs. 17 years ago she had a number of affairs and left family home to live with one. It didn't work out and she ended up at her mums. She admits she was in the wrong..no abuse from h, she just wanted excitement
After a year her h said she could come back as dcs were missing her Since then there has been a strained relationship.... Virtually no sex and none at all for last three years.
Neither are happy. They never go out or on holiday. No shared interests, just grinding it out.
He had told her this can't go on.
She is worried about finances and split if house.
She works full time in a low paid job but her name isn't on mortgage. No joint accounts.
Would there be a 50/50 split on house?
I've told her to go to a solicitor but she is worried about the cost