Who pays for divorce

[Soundofraindrops84]

My dp and exw spit 3.5 years ago. She left him for another man however if he wants divorce it's himself that has to pay, is that right and how does that seem fair??

I can petition for her to be responsible for the costs, but I was advised that this would be likely to make process even more acrimonious that it needs to be.

Mine isn't finalized yet, but it look like the order is going to be 50/50 on costs. Which is only the court fees as I have done it myself. Sticks in my throat a bit as it wasnt my choice to separate.

When XH and I get round to it we'll be paying half each.