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Divorce/separation

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Getting divorced - taking forever..

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theendishere · 17/06/2012 13:30

I instructed my solicitor in March. She's now written 3 letters to stbx asking for his financial disclosure. She's still hardly received anything from him, so she thinks mediation will be pointless, and will end up delaying things further.So unless she receives his info in th enect day or so, she suggests going straight to court. We're still living togehter as he's refused to leave and i have nowhere for me and ds to go. He could rent a room but refuses to on the basis that i'll still live in our nice house and i'll then not get things moving re selling our house, sorting finaces, etc. All rubbbish as I've provided all my financial info and it's him who's not doing whats been asked. he is alos not using a solicitor.
I feel like i'm going out of my mind with the stress of it all, in paticular living in the same house. There is no communication between us. If it goes to court, it will probablystill be live this for another year or so. i just don't know what to do.

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theendishere · 17/06/2012 17:16

Anyone there?

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Midwife99 · 18/06/2012 06:54

I was in that position 8 years ago. The only way I got him out was because every time he so much as laid a finger on me I called the police & in the end he spent a night in the cells & the magistrate told him to leave unless he wanted to end up in jail. He was abusive however. If this doesn't apply to you could you rent a house for you & DCs? temporarily with housing benefit?

theendishere · 18/06/2012 07:11

Thanks Midwife. No unfortunatley i wou;dn't get housing benefit until the marital home is on the market - and it can't go on the market until we've agreed the finances.
stbx is emotionally abusive much its obviously much hardr to prove, and along with that he's an out and out liar...
I just don't know how much longer i can live like this

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Midwife99 · 18/06/2012 07:21

So sorry love I know how hard it is to be in the same house but abuse is abuse & I don't understand why if you rented somewhere you wouldn't get HB even if house not on market? Take him to court now I reckon.

theendishere · 18/06/2012 08:23

Take him to court?
I've checked about hb and that's the rule unfortunatley :(

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Midwife99 · 18/06/2012 13:40

Yeah get on with it & get him out.

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