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Sues1968 · 03/08/2025 18:58

My mum has vascular dementia and getting worse 4 siblings, the problems are my 2 sisters have power of attorney for mums finances but nobody has power of attorney for mums health, me and my other sister who work full-time go to see mum when we can.( she's still at home) my other 2 sisters take it in turn to be mums carers they get paid for it. The trouble is there is cameras in mums house in every room, my 2 sisters who care for mum won't let us have access to these and also won't give us the key code for the front door, we don't like going round when they are in because it's like they are watching our every movie and also what we say to mum, if they leave us for half an hr with mum they constantly watching the cameras, please has anyone got any suggestions how to deal with this situation

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Wishiwasatailor · 03/08/2025 18:59

Disconnect the WiFi when you arrive

Sues1968 · 03/08/2025 19:05

Tried that they think we are upto something

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22O725 · 03/08/2025 21:24

Wishiwasatailor · 03/08/2025 18:59

Disconnect the WiFi when you arrive

That’s weird advice.

Contact adult services and have them come in and assess your mum.

Who is paying your sisters?

deadpan · 26/08/2025 10:09

I agree with 220725 in the respect that you should call either your mum's GP or social services. Some people can be very controlling but this is weird. Why wouldn't they want you to have access to the cameras, but watch you when you're there. Are any partners of all of you sisters friendly? Could inroads be made that way?

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