DNR

[bettybattenburg]

I've just agreed a DNR for my father.

Not wrong at all. I think its what everyone wishes when the end is inevitable - a quick, peaceful passing.

Totally get the wish it was over. With my poor DF we sat with him for 6 days. With my DGF it was 7 days. So exhausting and painful and sad. Each one we wished he had been able to just go. Let go. For him and for you, you need this to be over.

We are still here, waiting with you.

Elephant, technically a DNAR was designed to be advice from one healthcare professional to another. As such it's not legally binding. But increasingly GPs and hospital doctors etc are happy to sign a DNAR if the patient wishes to have one in place, and it would be very unlikely for anyone in healthcare to ignore one if they found it.

For more info have a look on www.resus.org.uk In many areas ReSPECT is replacing DNACPR - it's more comprehensive.

For something legally binding she needs an Advance Decision: mydecisions.org.uk/?utm_source=cidwebsite&utm_medium=planningahead&utm_campaign=CIDPLANAHEAD. But in all honesty the DNACPR or ReSPECT forms are more readily understood in an emergency.

Don't feel you have to read all of that good advice from Purple (nothing wrong with it but given today's circumstances) Betty.

How are you holding up? Is there anyone you can have a chat with - perhaps your brother or someone else who knows your DF? You need to have some form of comfort today.

It's over and I'm name changing
Thank you all

Aw, so sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Be kind to yourself

I'm sorry.

Please take care of yourself.

Very sorry for your loss. You absolutely made the right decision for him.

My deepest sympathy. Be kind to yourself.