DNR

[bettybattenburg]

I've just agreed a DNR for my father.

Oh no, I came in to sympathise about your self absorbed teenager, I have a couple of my own, but I see things have taken a turn for the worst.

I'm so sorry. The decision you made earlier was a good one and means that what happens tonight will be as natural and peaceful as it can be. You've given your dad a wonderful gift

Self absorbed teenager doesn't know and won't know until Wednesday afternoon for various important reasons thank you

I hope that doesn't mean you're having to cope with this on your own?

Yes but I'm used to doing that so it's ok

Oh you poor thing. How's your dad doing?

Just waiting now. No change as far as I know.

I hope you can get some rest, the next few days will be tough. My dad died a year ago and the days after were surreal, I spent hours just staring into space. Hopefully you can find some support from somewhere, you're obviously very strong and feel you don't need it but it really does help to have a caring person on your side

I need it but there is nobody

Oh love.

Well we're here, for what it's worth. I'm on the other side of the world but the cavalry will arrive when the sun comes up. And I bet your teen will surprise you, once they know. Mine did.

Plus you can ask for support through the hospital, they know what you need and will point you to people and places that want to help.

Thanks Binky. Are you in Australia ?

I am. It's early evening, quite warm. The self absorbed teens are glued to their social media so I'm happy to do the same until dinner time :)

Did you get any sleep at all?

I think I fell asleep about 5am.
Getting near the end now with slower breathing.

Wishing you all the comfort that it's possible to do from an internet random.

my teen doesn't know but as soon as he woke up he came and apologised without prompting. miracles do happen!

Oh bless him - teens are so unpredictable aren't they?

Just read through your thread Betty and wanted you to offer you a handhold. I am sorry you don;t have any real life support.

How are you doing Betty? Another handhold offering from me

Thank you. Honestly you couldn't make this stuff up, drove DS to school just now and he was telling me about how they were talking in lessons yesterday about how we've all lived the date of our death just in the wrong year.

Stupidly I'm now laughing about it now I'm here on my own.
Got to phone my brother and tell him what is happening now, he's not answering his phone.

Just told my brother

Thinking of you

You poor thing. Is it possible to be with your dad or is he too far away?

Too far away unfortunately

That must be incredibly hard. Can you take some time (even 5 min) to look after yourself today?

Yes...I didn't do any work today and had a lazy duvet day.

thinking of you today, Betty. This waiting is like an alternative universe. Never sure if one has a parent or not - the hardest. I am so sorry you are there alone.

I don't understand how he is still going. Is it wrong to wish he would just go now?