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Could you maybe decipher this behaviour for me, please?

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Streetlight · 14/07/2009 08:17

Ok, well there is a nice man I know and he definitely knows I like him - but I'm not sure if he likes me back.

Every time we meet he kisses my cheek, makes a real point of it, when we say hi and again when I go. He always says I look good/ slim/ whatever at some point during the conversation.
The other day I hugged him, as I was upset about something, and he held me for ages and ages, without letting go or doing that back-patting thing, I was crying a bit, he just held on.

Every time I mention some other guy has been around he kind of gets this look, and asks if they are bothering me, and offers to come and hang around if so.

I mentioned I was looking for something and he hs basically been trying to get hold of it for me.

Also every time I see him, his friends/colleagues are always super nice and smiley to me. Which makes me a little uneasy!

And he always stops what he's doing to have a chat. And, he remembers EVERYthing I've ever said - which is seriously a bit unnerving.

Do you think this stuff indicates anything, considering he hasn't actually made any move to ask me out?

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tennisaddict · 14/07/2009 08:25

if he is single, ask him out on a date yourself

you will get your answer then

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Streetlight · 14/07/2009 08:31

But this is it...he knows I fancy him, I've made it very clear - I told him months ago, and he seemed pleased. But nothing happened...it's just lately the signals seem to have been escalating, and me asking him would be silly as he already knows iyswim. So I'm thinking he's not that interested, probably.

It's very frustrating.

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beardydad · 14/07/2009 10:02

I'd agree with tennisaddict. Just ask him out! Us men love a direct woman. Saves lots of faffing about and emotional timewasting on your part.
Come out with it!

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Streetlight · 14/07/2009 11:06

Oh I daren't. I have made it so incredibly clear how much I like him. But these are good signs, yes? I am happy to wait, just want to know if he is giving off the right vibes or I ought to forget it and move on.

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donna123 · 14/07/2009 11:25

Forget it and move on.
He may then have a case of "you don't know what you've got til it's gone" and finally make his move. Or he may not; in which case stop wasting time on him.

Do the super nice and smiley friends/colleagues know what's going on inside his brain?

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Streetlight · 14/07/2009 11:28

Hmm I don't really know them well enough to ask. Plus if he is edging towards some kind of affirmation I don't want to hurry him! (lol)

thanks btw

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tennisaddict · 14/07/2009 14:13

if you are absolutely sure you have made it 100% clear that you fancy him, and would be up to step up your relationship....

if he doesn't bite, perhaps he just isn't that into you

all the men I know, if given clear signals would be in there like a shot, he could be a tease who is secretly laughing at you behind your back

stop stroking his eho and cool right off

I am not a believer in silly games, give him this one chance to see you might actually move on, if no-go after a couple of weeks, I would keep him as a mate but start dating other blokes pronto

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Streetlight · 14/07/2009 14:45

Thankyou...yes I do worry about that aspect, that maybe he just likes the ego trip.

I don't have other blokes to date - I'm not really interested in dating for the sake of finding someone, tbh, I just like this bloke.

So, I'll cool off and see what happens.

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tennisaddict · 14/07/2009 14:58

good luck x

Domokun · 15/07/2009 16:59

He sounds like he's definitely either into you, or gay. If he's not gay, then chances are that he's just very shy about taking the first move. Cooling off would send him the wrong signals in that case. I'd advise you to ask him on a date. If you don't because you're too shy, there's a good chance that he won't either as he's too shy, and then a potentially great relationship may be killed off before it even starts. If you've already made it clear to him that you like him (and bear in mind that women have VASTLY different opinions from men on what is and isn't obvious) then you've nothing to lose, have you? And everything to gain?

Pan · 19/07/2009 23:33

he is gay and he wants you as a fag hag.

HolyScrotum · 19/07/2009 23:37

Crying all over him was probably not a great move.

Brad79 · 29/07/2009 10:08

i would say just grab the bull by the horns and just ask him out.

I know that I would love to be asked out lol.

Good luck and let everyone know how you get on.

morethanjustadad · 29/07/2009 16:29

How about "halfway"... a midday coffee?

ihatethecold · 29/07/2009 17:05

he deffo likes you, its so obvious, maybe he was frightened off at first and now he is trying to get close to you again.. no man remembers everything a woman has said unless they are trying to impress.
invite him round for a take out and glass of vino.. you will soon know if he's interested..

Kevlarhead · 03/08/2009 19:58

He sounds like me; interested but shy, and possibly unsure you're that interested in him.

Ask him out. If he's into you, he'll bite your hand off...

(Me & the DW only hooked up after she dropped some crashingly unsubtle hints; I know that of which I speak...)

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