MEN........................I would like your opinion!!!

[charlotte121]

When you were in ur early 20's would you ever have considered dating a chick with 2 kids???

Im 20 and want a fella but is anyone going to be interested in me with my chooks (kids) or are they going to think im a chavvy slapper with "baggage"?

Not a chav btw...at uni...hard working but do drive a corsa

I dated two women that had kids when I was in my early/mid 20s (not at the same time, I hasten to add) and far from being chavscum they were both rather yummy mummies Kids did remove some (all) spontaneity & prevent some activities that would otherwise be seen as normal e.g. you can't just fook off to the pub for a drink when you like, or go away for the weekend without planning it in minute detail weeks in advance, but they are part of what makes you who you are and no reason why you shouldn't be able to find someone.

That said you're going to have to work hard to compensate for driving a Corsa

Lol well the corsa is going.... alas talulah is not big enough for me and 2 kids so roll on peugeot 307!

I dated an older woman of 23 when I was 19 who had a kid. it was fun as we had dates for ourselves and dates with the kid (probably because I was a big kid myself, loved the water park and zoos etc).
if the bloke is decent, the kids will not be a problem as they are part of who you are. if the kids are a problem to him, then there is no problem, dump him!!

tbh it may put some men off but then they would not be right for you would they? After all you want someone to love you and your children. So hopefully that is what you will get. What's to say you won't meet a guy who has kids himself?

Would be nice to meet a decent guy who likes me and the kids and doesnt have some secret weird knicker fettish or enough back hair to rival my barnet!
Pity they dont make a mail order catalogue of men to choose as I have no idea how to go about meeting people now I have kids. IME you dont find bf material when your clubbing in town lol.

One day your Prince will come but even Princes can be a bit hairy and have strange habits.

I didn't meet DW until we were in our late 30's but the wait was worth it.

It may take years but for your kid and yourself it is best to be patient.