My post has been removed and is being investigated I'm not going to be using Dadsnet anymore but I would like to just thank those who helped with good advice.
Living in a small village, it's hard to get an outside opinion on anything and this community was kind and supportive and has helped me to see things clearly when it comes to my situation. I'm not going to attempt to persuade anybody of its authenticity because I came for advice on my life and nothing else. I got that and I am truly grateful.
I actually feel glad that it's disappeared because I was worried I'd given too much away and could have identified myself or others.
Thanks again and wishing you all well
Ivan