Very upset

9 replies

Billsmith · 08/04/2019 17:12

I’d like some advice please. The Christmas before last I bought my 12 year old son a Christmas present he didn’t like. His mother and me were never really together from when he was a baby. I had repeatedly asked him what he would like for Christmas a fair few weeks beforehand but received no suggestions so I bought him something I thought he would like but he didn’t and his mother told me that both of them thought it was junk. It wasn’t but I apologised anyway and gave my boy the cash equivalent. Since then my son says he doesn’t want to see me. I took him a card and again some cash on his birthday 6 months later. He took it from me on the doorstep and went inside. I don’t know what to do to get him back in my life. I have tried calling and texting him but I’ve been blocked from his phone. Can anyone suggest anything I could do

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SlightlyMisplacedSingleDad · 08/04/2019 22:34

Look deeper. A child doesn't cut a parent out of their life because of a Christmas present. The fact that you're fixating on that as the cause suggests you are either unaware, or not willing to admit, what the real reason might be. Think harder about your relationship with him - there must be (a lot) more to this.

Huggybear16 · 08/04/2019 22:41

I'm a mum, not a dad, but saw this on active threads.

I completely agree with what PP slightly has said. This isn't about the Christmas present.

Traveler001 · 08/04/2019 22:45

What was the present?

LittleLongDog · 08/04/2019 22:49

I agree as well: it’s not about the present.

It could have been a last straw ‘this shows how much he doesn’t know me’ thing though. It could have been the tipping point for him.

LittleLongDog · 08/04/2019 22:50

Also, if you want to know how to get back into your son’s life could you try asking exactly that to his mum? Really listen to what she says and then take proper steps and time to work on the points.

Apoiads · 08/04/2019 22:58

What did you buy him?

GammonNosher · 10/05/2019 12:38

you've kept us insuspense for 2 days what. was. the. present.

jelly79 · 12/05/2019 15:04

Definitely more to this....in 18months you have seen him at Christmas then 6 months later and in nearly a year since then tried to text / call? Have you been back to the house? Really made an effort to understand him?

Branleuse · 12/05/2019 15:22

How often were you seeing him at that point

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