i need your pov...

[nappyaddict]

do you think men should have to pay child maintenance if they don't see the child?

yes issues of contact are separate from amintenance

depends on the situation.

I know of situations where the ex-wife is bitter and won't allow contact for all the wrong reasons.

However, if the father is not capable of looking after his children adequately, there is no reason that this should be a let-out clause for his financial obligation towards the children.

zippi, would you say it is an exception where the man isn't allowed by the woman to see his child(ren)

The children shouldn't suffer because the mother won't let the father see the children. I assume the father could go to court to get access anyway.

yes.

they can get access if they love their children they will fight to see them.

i always think that too. just because the mother is being awkward it doesn't then mean you can just forget all about them!! so are we saying that is no excuse for not paying for them?

yes

my dds dp has been in this position...he wasn't allowed access by his ex but she still had maintenance from him

he has very little money and dd has a ds 18 months younger

lots of refusals to let him see his ds by ex but he still paid

she has now split with her boyfriend and regrets ds not seeing his dad (who was very upset at being unable to see him)

she is now keen to make up for lost time and he has got to know his half brother and stays with him one night a week..

the continued maintenance during all that period has helped

I don't think the children in a relationship should be losing out

so no it's not an exception if the mother is refusing access

but what about if the mother doesn't want the father to see his child and the father doesn't want to either.