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I'm going to be a Dad!

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puppythedog · 11/02/2014 11:07

Hello fellow Dads to be. Mrsthedog and I found out at the weekend she is pregnant after just a month of trying. I'm on the antenatal thread but was hoping to talk to some fellas about it all. ANyone else out there expecting, recently had a first child or expecting/recently had another?

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Paleodad · 11/02/2014 12:18

Not a new/expecting father BTW, already on DD2 (4months old), with older DS (4) and DD1 (7), but still enjoying those early months when they're very cute (and can't get away when you maul them!).

so, Congratulations! And get as much sleep as you can over the next 8/9 months....

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puppythedog · 11/02/2014 21:05

Thanks Paleodad seems not many of the paternal units hang out in this part of town.

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MoonlightPicnic · 12/02/2014 11:20

Congratulations to Mrsthedog and yourself!

We had out first DS just over 2 months ago and despite sleep deprivation, a stunted (ok greatly reduced) social life and all that crying (all three of us) It's fantastic!

Go out and do all the things you like doing right now as pretty soon you'll be in a whole new ballgame :)

If you need any advice feel free to PM. Mrs Moon and I will do our best to help!

Cheers

Moony

UriGeller · 12/02/2014 11:22

Congratulations! Well done to you both!

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puppythedog · 12/02/2014 11:49

Thank you both. It's bloody strange wanting to get excited and to start planning and all thta stuff and yet feeling the need to calm it down in case it all goes away (which is how we are calling the risk of miscarriage).
We're very early days 5+1 (all this new language to learn, I had no idea what 5+1 was a week ago) but have felt the need to tell some of our narest and dearest.
It feels difficult to invest in the pregnancy whilst we are thinking about the chance of losing the baby.
That doesn't stop me thinking about how we're going to work out work and childcare at the end of Mrsthedog's maternity leave which is in itself ages away. So many things to think about, so many things to not think abuot and not being able to get excited fully. What a fantastic jumble of emtions.

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Stockhausen · 25/02/2014 11:40

Hope all is going ok?

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puppythedog · 25/02/2014 12:21

So far we are still pootling along in the right direction. Mrsthedog half convinced herself last week she had had a missed misscarriage which it's difficult to know what to do with. She knows how her body feels but then she doesn't know how it feels to be pregnant and anxious because now's the first time.

Mostly over that now and just getting on with hoping everything is okay. We found out that Mrsthedog may be entitled to less maternity pay than we were banking on which added to earlier money worries has tipped me into 'it'll be alright, it'll have to be' mode.

I'm a little surprised there is so little traffic on the Dad's bit or by Dads on the other bits (well the antenatal bit).

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MoreBeta · 25/02/2014 12:38

puppy - its always been dead here. I am a Dad. Hardly ever post here. Post loads everywhere else.

On the maternity pay thing I think you need to post in 'Chat' as lots of traffic and plenty of people know the rule on maternity pay

You need to make sure your DW is not being unfairly treated. If she is better to sort it now before she goes on maternity leave.

Congratulations by the way. You'll get lost of good advice on MN.

Good luck and hope all goes well.

Timetoask · 25/02/2014 12:47

Congratulations! I am a mum but couldn't help and read your post, its so nice to see a dad around here.
I have a wonderful DH who has been an absolute rock for me, he is a great dad and I think the role that the dad plays in the baby's life is very important.
One word of caution is: do not expect your DW's libido to be back soon, and you will feel extremely tired at the beginning, but give it time, it will all be worthed.

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puppythedog · 26/02/2014 13:05

Thanks for the responses,
morebeta we will be careful about getting what we are entitled too, fortunately she is a teacher with a strong set of national policies behind her local ones. Unfortunately we didn't check the details of them before BFP. We'll definitely know all about what is going to happen way before Mat leave starts.

Timetoask this is by no means a Dad only thread, I'm in amongst the antenatal one so that would be hypocritical. I hope that i am uunderstanding of mrsthedog's needs but we do check in with each often so should find out if not.

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puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 26/02/2014 13:09

Congratulations puppy and mrspuppy I'm a mother also, but thought I'd pop on anyway.

Babies are the best! Your life will change, not completely, but substantially, and you will truly know what love is once little puppy arrives

elQuintoConyo · 26/02/2014 13:24

Many congratulations puppythedog

It's an amazing journey, tiring, rewarding, exhausting, fun... our DS is 2.2 yo and if I didn't have photographic proof, I'd swear I gave birth to him aged 1! The early months all passed in a bit of a blur!

He's currently dressed up as a pirate (in his words he is a 'patata') with a pair of red superman pants over his trousers refusing to.go down for his nap good times!

GoonerDog · 27/02/2014 18:09

Hi Puppy and congratulations to you both!
Like you, I've just found out (last week) that I'm going to be a Dad for the first time. Needless to say, it's still VERY early days, but me being a glass half full kinda bloke, know it's all gong to be good.
Can't wait till we get the all clear at 3 months so we can tell all our family and friends!!

p.s. I'm a Mumsnet virgin and this is my first post!

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puppythedog · 04/03/2014 21:07

Welcome GoonerDog maybe us muts are all half full kinda guys :-)
Got booking in appointment with the Midwife tomorrow and we are 8weeks today. Very exciting and also very scary and also very ...

... well I don't know what. Just Very.

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puppythedog · 05/03/2014 15:19

Just had the booking in appointment with the midwife today. Mostly form filling and nothing more to do for a while but none the less it was reasssuring. I had a moment where I worried that the midwife might think I was there as a controlling horror husband so that mrsthedog didn't say the wrong thing/dob me in. Interesting what the mind does

We're now 8+1 only four ish weeks to weight for the scan but that seems like forever. I really just want to hear a heartbeat so I can carry on with getting excited and preparing for decorating.

Anyone else in s imilar place or remember those feelings well?

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puppythedog · 07/03/2014 09:06

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Oldandcobwebby · 07/03/2014 09:18

Another dad here. Congratulations! My little girl is 16 months old now, and I have to tell you that fatherhood is THE BEST. You will be awesome!

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puppythedog · 09/03/2014 19:47

Thank you Old :-) I keep feeling as though I'm on the edge of the most exciting feeling and most amazing (don't know what to call the emotion) but that it is just out of sight. I think our worries (which we think are normal) about the pregnancy ending, or more worrying has and we don't know until the scan dampen the excitement.
Also though is the not quite having something to hold to attach those feelings too. I wonder if I will feel differently after the scan, or maybe after I have allowed myself to buy some baby gear.

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