Need some advice - what do you consider sexy?

[Somanybabyseagulls]

I want to look sexy for dp but not tarty, what does it for you?

Just about anything which shows off the shoulders.

Shoulders and thighs are good. No tummies and keep the cleavage to no more than an inch, tops. Black is good. Red is bad. Yellow is very bad.

Heels are essential, but make sure you can walk in them. There's nothing like a twisted ankle to ruin a nice evening.

No boots. Keep them for when you get home.

Underwear should be carefully selected so that only dp will enjoy the sight of any of it up to and including bra straps. No tights. Stockings and/or hold-ups are fine if you've got the legs for them.

R.

Okay, the image or stockings AND hold-ups just hit me and I'm trying not to giggle. Stockings OR hold-ups.

You knew what I meant.

R.

Very precise and knows exactly what he likes... I like that in a man dh40k My dh likes my underwear to be hidden too, not shining through tops and or sticking out the top of jeans

Being sexy is, I think, only 10% about clothes, hair etc. and 90% about body language and attitude. Look at Tracey Cox, the flirting expert - she's not a VERY glamorous woman (although I wouldn't kick her out of bed, all things being equal. She dresses very simply and smartly, has nice hair, but it's all about the way she looks at people, widens her eyes, touches hands and knees, laughs.

You can get an awful lot of mileage out of a genuine smile.

hy dh hates bows and lace
just likes it simple

got a lovely air hostess outfit from ann summers the other day proved to be a hit

My other half always says exy is in the intrigue - i.e. show hints of flesh so his imagination has to do the rest!!

Do you mean in the bedroom SMBSs or just generally?
Half an iota of effort & a bit of "come & get it" attitude is usually enough for most men!
I'm an underwear fetishist & have never had any complaints about black basque, suspenders & a pair of high heels - but some might think that tarty!!!
For those worried about their weight, a full length dressing gown (made of something nice) over some nice underwear & stockings looks good.
Alternatively, a nice dress & commando underneath seems to work well - but you have to allude to the commando bit at some point, so they are aware of that!

PMSL Sobernow!

I agree totally with what VVV has said....huh?

Sexy IS in the eye ofthe beholder!! If your man is a stockings-and-fuck-me shoes man then do it!! Quite partial to a piece of that myself...and really suggestive texting prior to the 'event' can raise more than just the interest IYKWIM....agree on the underwear hidden, except for a little lace of a bra being revealed....but not too much cleavage..??

Essential to keep him guessing and begging..

btw, where is expat? - she normally piles in on these types of threads...and lowers the tone..

Reading the 'what do you think is sexy' with a picture of David Hasselhoff on the right of my screen... 'nuff said really.

babydoodoo you have just put me off sex

dmo hope you don't think i have an actual picture of Hasselhoff on my computer? It was a pop-up advert that, once i'd posted the message had the decency to change into something else thus making me out to be some kind of Hasselhoff stalker... it was there, honest, you HAVE TO BELIEVE ME..!

I had to live in Germany for a year, where The Hoff is worshipped as some kind of rock god... scary.

lololol sobernow!

lol sobernow

why are boots a turnoff, dh40k?

Nothing wrong with boots from my point of view!

dh has a thing about boots and hold ups too. sometimes find it hard to keep a straight face as it's just not a good look for me with nowt else on. much better with a black slip on as well

just read about 'full-length dressing gown made of something nice' - am pmsl imagining terry towelling or that material old-fashioned eiderdowns are made of.

dh says smiling is good

also behaving as if you look sexy and feel confident, rather than going 'is this sexy? are you sure? really? but look at the state of xxxx bit of me' which apparently is The Wrong Thing.

Agree with Cappuccino too. Most of us blokes are so happy to get a lovely lady naked and in the mood that we are really, really NOT going to be examining her for cellulite or saggy bits. Just steam right in there like a sex-goddess.

Seriously sad to say that dh and I had huge row last night, could all be over! Never did get to do the sexy number on him!