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Is Mumsnet sexist?

153 replies

AlbertGiordino · 29/11/2013 15:55

I was thinking of dad-specific threads (see other thread). I cant really think of any. But I have heard the odd complaint that male posters are treated with less respect than female ones. I've only experienced this once, but it would be interesting to know whether this is a common occurrence.

As a predominantly female user base, I would expect some gender bias towards women and so therefore against men. But to what extent does it occur?

As I said I've only ever experienced it once, so IME Mumsnet isnt Sexist.

I know, it sounds goady. But I would like to hear some opinion. I'm not sure either way.

PLEASE NOTE - I KNOW THE VAST MAJORITY OF WOMEN ON MUMSNET ARE LOVELY AND NOT SEXIST - THE TITLE WAS TO ATTRACT READERS/POSTERS

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Andy1964 · 08/01/2014 17:17

In answer to OP, yes, and feminist.

I hang out on the 'relationships' board.
My DW and I have been through some quite difficult times in the past and have come out the other end as a very tight married couple. I can share some of our experiences and offer some experienced advice.

However, because it's a guys point of view, on occasion it's wrong but hey, it's only the internet and I do like a good debate ;)

KlausDupont · 08/02/2014 20:47

I've been on other forums where occasionally Mumsnet would be portrayed as harpies and histrionics that want the moon on a stick and then some.

But it mostly seems reasonable to me. Just life. And people trying to negotiate it.

Childrenofthestones · 25/02/2014 01:34

" Is mumsnet sexist "

Do Bears shit in the woods?

CorusKate · 25/02/2014 02:11

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Contrarian78 · 06/03/2014 16:46

In my opinion (and experience) it's absolutely sexist or some of the people who use it have sexist views

On the plus side, Ive had my eyes opened up to an entirely new way of thinking. In moderation, it's been helpful; though to be honest there are some proper nutjobs on here. I've also noted that some of the posters (check out the relationships board) start to bully anyone whose world view doesn't chime exactly with theirs. In fairness, they'll do that whether or not the poster is male. so much for the so-called "sisterhood"

dadx6789 · 22/10/2014 03:40

*In my opinion (and experience) it's absolutely sexist or some of the people who use it have sexist views

On the plus side, Ive had my eyes opened up to an entirely new way of thinking. In moderation, it's been helpful; though to be honest there are some proper nutjobs on here. I've also noted that some of the posters (check out the relationships board) start to bully anyone whose world view doesn't chime exactly with theirs. In fairness, they'll do that whether or not the poster is male. so much for the so-called "sisterhood"*

Im male, spent the day on the relationships forum and been pulled to shreds. That corner of this site is a troll fest. Sexist, probably.

I wount spend anymore time on the site, but I imagine the ergobaby thread is more balanced, atleast I hope so.

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Sabrinnnnnnnna · 22/10/2014 09:08

dadx - you gave a woman on here the advice "cook him a nice meal and wear something nice" ? Shock I think you need 1950s Mumsnet....

I'm becoming a semi-regular on Dadsnet here!

FminorSuspendedFifth · 22/10/2014 20:04

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MarriedDadOneSonOneDaughter · 23/10/2014 08:16

I'd argue that MN isn't sexist despite the occasional male poster getting a hard time.

I compare these, relatively minor and infrequent occurrences on an internet forum, with sexism at large in society which ranges from wolf whistles, gropes on the bus to widespread violence and rape the vast majority being against women.

To try to define this forum as sexist in this context seems to devalue real world sexism to me.

Probably "mansplaining" there, but this is dadsnet so I think that's OK.

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MarriedDadOneSonOneDaughter · 23/10/2014 09:27

A womansplaining man - I've reached nirvana! Smile

Wackadoodle · 24/10/2014 21:31

"Is Mumsnet sexist?" LOL is the fucking pope catholic?

dadx, Yeah the bullying is part of it. And also just obstinate refusal to treat facts as facts and continue discussing things with any sense of reason. Once you get on the wrong side, every kind of sense and meaning gets thrown out and it just becomes about saying whatever kind of bullshit can get everybody together against the Big Bad Man.

Have you ever noticed how whenever you win an argument against a feminist, the argument suddenly changes from being about what it was originally about, to being about how The Evil Patriarchy insist on using Male Dominant weapons like "argument" in their war against The Soul Of All Womankind?

OliviaBlue · 04/11/2014 01:04

I think mumsnet is mostly very friendly. However, I have went to the feminism pages and I do think they are sexist a lot of the time. A lot of it is unrealistic in my experience of men. I just get the impression of dislike toward men there. It may be just me, but I definitely feel it.

Men and women have their differences, but I certainly don't feel held down by "the patriarchy". I find it adolescent and silly.

Sabrinnnnnnnna · 04/11/2014 01:25

Yah, adolescent and silly. Kinda like wrestling naked with your brother and giving him a black eye? Wink

OliviaBlue · 04/11/2014 01:37

What has my DH and his DIL, stupidity got to do with my own beliefs, Sabrinnnnnnna?

OliviaBlue · 04/11/2014 01:37

BIL*

YonicScrewdriver · 04/11/2014 01:39

"A womansplaining man - I've reached nirvana! "

Wow Married, well done!!

Sabrinnnnnnnna · 04/11/2014 01:55

Yep, and naked wrestling with family members is like totally normal, and fine.

FloraFox · 04/11/2014 01:57

Busy night with the zombies Olivia.

OliviaBlue · 04/11/2014 02:14

You guys are so nasty. I already explained what happened with the wrestling thing. It has zero to do with this issue. If I knew a personal thing about you sabrina, I wouoldn't spread it all over the page if it was unrelated. But whatever.

Sabrinnnnnnnna · 04/11/2014 07:52

Oliviablue - your post was pretty nasty about the feminism pages here - calling us adolescent and silly - I was just responding.

PetulaGordino · 04/11/2014 07:59

Oh so this is where all the frothing men end up!

I like the womansplaining man thing, very funny Grin

PetulaGordino · 04/11/2014 08:04

Sabrina there was an absolutely hilarious chap last night going around posting links to tell MNers how much the Daily Mail hates us. As if we didn't know and needed to realise the error of our ways Grin