Is Mumsnet sexist?

[AlbertGiordino]

I was thinking of dad-specific threads (see other thread). I cant really think of any. But I have heard the odd complaint that male posters are treated with less respect than female ones. I've only experienced this once, but it would be interesting to know whether this is a common occurrence.

As a predominantly female user base, I would expect some gender bias towards women and so therefore against men. But to what extent does it occur?

As I said I've only ever experienced it once, so IME Mumsnet isnt Sexist.

I know, it sounds goady. But I would like to hear some opinion. I'm not sure either way.

PLEASE NOTE - I KNOW THE VAST MAJORITY OF WOMEN ON MUMSNET ARE LOVELY AND NOT SEXIST - THE TITLE WAS TO ATTRACT READERS/POSTERS

[kateandme]

if u got together with a group of friends i think wed all have a moan bout our other halves.its known talk of men not helping out,being lazy,leaviong socks about.these asll go on in cafes,work,pubs.so i think its natural.its more exposed here so might look concentrated upon.
i think men would do the same if there was a "dadsnet"

[Pan]

Seriously, Luis, is there some crusade going on? Or you're being entertainingly sardonic? Agree with others - advising other folk what sections they should be reading, and why from your POV, could be quiet an irritant.
It's quiet healthy to hide topics for a while, and nothing to do with necks being winded in or out.
Love the idea of advising 'LTB - it'll do him a power of good'.

[rpitchfo]

please please please read them

Oh fuck off. Because as men we need to be educated about how shit other men are I suppose ? Oh look...your sexist to.

[rpitchfo]

You're*

[AlbertGiordinHoHoho]

'LTB - it'll do him a power of good'

I'm using this the next time it's warranted.

As for linking to other threads, I'm not sure this is "OK" on MN. Something about threads about threads, not quite sure.

[DadOnIce]

DoctrineOfSanta - it's just the way "this man" sounds very sneery to me. Disaparaging. But maybe it doesn't to others. I take your point.

Luis - I will not engage with someone who tells me to STFU. I will not SU, whether TF or otherwise.

[AlbertGiordinHoHoho]

Please see thread entitled Housetraining... evolution of a husband.

Digest and discuss in the context of MN discrimination

and check out my Panspired LTB.

[rpitchfo]

Link?

[Pan]

here

[Pan]

DadOnIce - I'd agree with you, fwiw. "this man" has a demeaning air to it, like he is being physically pulled up out of a swamp and the poster is holding him by the edges with thumb and forefinger.

Also, from what I recall, sometimes female posters are asking for advice about how to deal with tricky circs. re their partner about specifics, which then invites a shower of LTB comments, and the female poster has to reclaim the better points about her chosen beau. Part of all of that, I think, is a feature of women judging other women quite harshly, so sort of 'lay in' to her for her poor choice. That and exorcising their own poor choices.

[Pan]

oh and yes, Luis telling someone to STFU isn't really on in DN. We tend to be a bit more patient and civilised than the rest of the site. It seems to be the way we like it??

[Pan]

yes, Daddy, some posters seem to discount the reservoir of feelings the OP may hold for the 'accused' and get rather insensitive to that fact, overall.

[AlbertGiordinHoHoho]

Yy to that Pan

I can imagine the late Mr Mandela's OH posting in AIBU. DP is never at home, always in work meetings etc.

LTB

[TheDoctrineOfSanta]

Plenty of leaders are crap spouses.

Clinton? Kennedy?

There was a long thread once about whether Aung San Suu Kyii was a crap wife.

And don't get me started on Gandhi

[AlbertGiordinHoHoho]

Whats up with Gandhi - seemed like a nice fella?

[TheDoctrineOfSanta]

Gandhi slept naked with his 18 year old grand niece says biographer.

[rpitchfo]

from a thread in the feminism section:

"there were some reports recently that the rape problem in India is due to there being more men than women.

Strange isn't it that when women outnumber men they turn into barbie dolls to attract a husband, but when men outnumber women they turn into rapists."

[AlbertGiordinHoHoho]

Whoa Nellie. Whats the opposite of Mysoginist?

[rpitchfo]

misandrist

[AlbertGiordinHoHoho]

Misandrist eh? Is that a polar opposite, i.e. hater of all men? Its a good word. Can you say Misandristic - that sounds terrrible.

[rpitchfo]

Yes, misandry is the hatred of men.

I'd not heard of the word until recently - i'm not sure what that says in relation to the meaning of the word.

[AlbertGiordinHoHoho]

I reckon the matriarchal power group of teachers have clubbed together with the illuminati to conspire not to teach the word to children.

Or there is generally more hatred of women in the world.

One of those two I think.