What to take to prison

[drinkswineoutofamug]

Will be brief, daughter due to be sent down. Any one have a clue what to pack? Do we pack a bag? I've looked on line and it's a bit vague . Any help greatly appreciated.

Drinks you could ask for the thread to be moved. Although I completely understand if you want it to go poof.

A support thread is a good idea, if you make a new one il follow you over with my limited (and out of date) experience.

I'm actually pleasantly surprised by all the support on this thread.

It's been brilliant unborn . I have had my mind put at ease. I will contact hq and if not a new thread. Somewhere!

I've learned so much from this thread that I wouldn't have known or thought about drinks.

Hope you are ok, how are you feeling today?

Since I spoke to her Groovee I'm a lot more calm. I was on the ceiling. I was surprise by all the responses , not one nasty comment. My daughter is a stupid little girl. But 2 kids out of 3 turning out alright ain't bad.

I agree woo woo woo. One thing I've learned from working with "my boys" is that anyone can end up in prison. Literally anyone. It only takes a bad decision in a split second for me to be the other side of the bars with no keys. I could run someone over by accident and kill them, for example. I could lose my job, end up on the streets, and get caught shoplifting for food multiple times. I could become an addict and be driven by my addiction to mug someone for money despite the guilt I would feel.

No-one is immune, no-one at all...

Drinks I put my mam through a lot. Forced hospitalisation rather then prison.

My three siblings are spot on and she is a good mam.

When I'm perfect il start judging others poor life choices.

I'm in quite a deprived area I know a few lads in jail. They haven't done anything evil they have just made poor decisions.

I'm glad you had the phone call, hope Tuesday goes ok

I'm making a new thread in the crime section.
This one will keep running so I can keep people up dated.

We have a crime section?!

Yes

In the other stuff section

Didn't know that.

I will come and find you. Glad you're feeling better today

Drinks your DD is so lucky to have you - I hope that she realises this (if not now, at some point in the future). Stay strong and good luck.

I'm phoning the benefit office on Monday to see if her next payment can be put in her prison bank account? Worth a try?

Drinks I have nothing worthwhile to add in terms of advice, I just wanted to let you know that you sound like a wonderful mother, none of this is your fault at all so please don't feel like it is. The people who matter won't judge you or your daughter, we all make mistakes. I'll keep my fingers crossed that everything works out for you both

Benefits have specific rules for prison. Housing benefit is payable under some circumstances for up to 13 weeks. If sentence is longer than 13 weeks it will stop. All other benefits stop (apart from tax credits which has really odd rules).

This might help re welfare benefits and remand;

www.turn2us.org.uk/Your-Situation/A-prisoner/Prisoners-on-remand/Introduction

I have no advice, I just want to say I wish I had a parent like you. Your DD is a lucky woman and I wish you both the very best.

I've packed her stuff. Think I will have to go through it. Bit heavy
Going through everything I found sealy bags. Empty . But that made me sad and angry at the same time. Binned them all.

Drinks there is some really good drugs and alcohol services available for her whilst she's in.

They do say you have to hit rock bottom, hopefully (for both of you) this is hers.

My DH is a prison officer and said stamps are fine. 1 letter a week is free but she'll need stamps for any more

No advice OP, but just wanted to say that I think you're a fantastic Mum

Thank you everyone who says I'm a fan mum . I do sometimes doubt myself, but then look at my other 2 children who both work, been through college. Never been in much trouble. Others that recognised me from another forum, I've been through so much with her. I've been tempted to walk away. Been told to walk away, but I couldn't. She's my daughter. I've fought so called professionals who in my opinion let some of this get this far by listening to her lies . I was branded an unfit mother, neglectful and unable to safeguard. They have thankfully seen through all of this. She told probation last year that me and her dad were drug addicts and alcoholics! I was neglectful because I refused to give her money for alcohol! I was unable to safeguard because I couldn't stop her from running away. She put herself in foster care at 16 as the grass was greener! Her sister followed. They were on cpp . The sw at the time wrote a parental assessment without an assessment due to her running out of time! You couldn't make it up! But lessons will be learnt. Ss are there to listen to the children, they act on what they have been told, sometimes without looking at the wider picture. Even though the police backed me up. But that is all in the past. I look only towards the future . Take 1 day at a time, as I have my mental health to think about and the rest of my family.

You're amazing drinks. I hope if I ever go through tough times with my boys I can have your strength, love and positivity. All the best going forward