What to take to prison

[drinkswineoutofamug]

Will be brief, daughter due to be sent down. Any one have a clue what to pack? Do we pack a bag? I've looked on line and it's a bit vague . Any help greatly appreciated.

Oh, if the prison ring you on her behalf OP, they will say "this is mr/miss x from HMP Styal. Are you expecting a call about anyone?" And say nothing else. So it's important at that point you clock it's the prison and say "yes my daughter her name is x" straight away otherwise they will put the phone down x

Fruitcider don't men get any toiletries free? That's awful

In both women's prisons I went to we were supplied with shampoo, shower gel, san pro, toothpaste and toothbrush.

Loads and loads of girls come in off the streets with absolutely nothing or nobody to support them

I've heard women's prisons are a lot more comfortable so to speak then men's.

My friend came out with a load of certificates, she did a drugs and alcohol course and ended up mentoring new inmates (This was Low Newton)

Drinkswine hopefully they will have a similar scheme in Styal. Hope you've managed a bit sleep and hear something soon.

She won't be allowed to contact Fuckwit drinks as from what you've said it was a bail condition that she didn't before she went in and they will be aware of that.

Morning all. Not much sleep. What if she doesn't want to call me? My mind is doing over time now. I'm in work in 2 hours

Thinkin of you drinks. Look after yourself - you're an amazing mum

If she doesn't call you you can still go up to the jail and hand in her property.

Occasionally the reception phone call is given the next day so try not to panic.

She may have used her one phonecall on the gf despite the bail conditions. Often things like that slip through the net. If she didn't have any cash on her she will have to wait to receive funds before she can purchase phone credit. It could take up to a week.

How are you feeling OP?

She will also have to have all her phone contacts security checked and added to her approved list. This can take a few days too, particularly as it is the weekend.

Unless she's expecting the gf to send money and clothes I'm pretty sure she will be calling you.

It's already been said but you sound like a brilliant mam

It's killing me. Think yesterday even though I knew it was going to happen I was just numb with it. Last night I wanted to cry. This morning I'm fired and feel like I'm on auto pilot.

Ffs tired not fired! How the hell did that happen ? Bloody auto correct!

I'm not surprised you're tired - the adrenalin would have kept you going yesterday and now you've crashed.

Sorry she hasn't called you . My bet is that she called Fuckwit, although I hope I'm wrong . Try not to be upset if she has , 'love/dependency in these situations is very strong , it doesn't mean she doesn't love you .

My friends abusive partner was jailed for attacking her among other things and he still managed to
Contact her from prison.

Fingers crossed you get some news today , can you phone in sick or will the distraction of work help ?

Keep reminding yourself that she is at least in a safe place .

I phoned the prison going to see her on Tuesday . They were helpful.

That's brilliant news drinks

You need to try and find things to do to keep you busy this weekend

Once you've seen her you feel so much better

Xxx

I am thinking about you and your dd. I have epilepsy and apparently am very combative after a seizure. My dh also notes personality changes in me that can last for up to a week. I wonder if this played a part in your daughter's actions.

I am wishing you both the best, Op. Hopefully this too shall pass and your dd will move on to a better life. You sound like a lovely and supportive mum. Please remember to take care of yourself during this time.

That's good Drinks .

Brilliant news

Hope she manages to get herself sorted in prison my heart is with you all,and let's hope you get a very different daughter at the end of it all.best wishes carol

I got sent home from work. Unfit to work ☹️ I've been given a list off the prison of what I can take in. She's been sent a hospital appointment I'm gathering they have to take her? Would I be able to go too?

Unmumsnetty hugs drinks.
I did some pretty stupid stuff to survive while in an abusive relationship at 19 and I know for a fact neither of my parents would be as supportive as you.

Oh drinks it's probably for the best. I hope your work were kind.

Glad the prison are being helpful and glad they are sorting out her healthcare quickly.

Unfortunately you won't be able go to the hospital with her. She will be taken out with officers and they won't tell her which hospital or when. They will just come and get her with no warning so no chance to make phone calls etc. It's a security thing.

Usually the officers that take you out to appointments are very discrete and considerate.

Glad the prison have been helpful to you. Hope you can get some sleep, and try not to worry too much, far easier said than done I know. You sound like a brilliant mum

Sending hugs.

Prison officers are usually pretty helpful when you call. You can also speak to pastoral care and they'll send someone to check she's ok and phone you back.

It's heartbreaking when a loved one is sent to prison, so absolutely no judging here. xxx

I hope you get sick pay Drinks. If I were you I'd get a docs cert for at least 4 weeks, you certainly deserve to take your time to gather yourself and process all of this, your emotions must be all over the show and you need to be careful you don't have an emotional breakdown ( I did- it hit me like a ton of bricks) xx

She's phoned she's ok and as usual wants money off me