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Nicola Gallagher

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ColadhSamh · 15/05/2023 09:38

What a brave, brave woman. What courage and what a role model. Have just read her interview with Rodney Edward's having previously read her Facebook post.
She was let down by so many not least the PSNI, Gardaí, GAA and others.
Her 'husband' in all his statements has not denied any of what she has said. My gut is telling me that when this story finally unfolds there will be massive implications not only for the above organisations but also social services and others.
Thank you Nicola

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lunaloveroo · 15/05/2023 09:57

Extremely brave to come out and share her horrendous experience. Sounds look many organisations failed nicola and I hope that this gets investigated and she gets justice.

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ColadhSamh · 15/05/2023 10:01

lunaloveroo · 15/05/2023 09:57

Extremely brave to come out and share her horrendous experience. Sounds look many organisations failed nicola and I hope that this gets investigated and she gets justice.

Indeed, I have posted links to her story separately but I assume they have to be checked out before making them visible.

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TaraMock · 15/05/2023 15:14

I saw a headline at the weekend that said what her husband was doing was an "open secret" and no one challenged him. It's so sad, and she's so brave - I applaud her 👏

I hate all this bullshit about "oh he's a pillar of the community / attends Mass every Sunday" blah, blah, blah.... Irish women (& others too, I'm sure) have been putting up with this for too long.

Wishing Nicola a very happy future ❤ 💐

honeyrider · 15/05/2023 15:20

The wife of one of his former teammates has posted her support and about taking her to hospital after the assault in Clones.

Derry GAA are coming out badly over it as they knew about it yet support him. Her dad informed them and didn't even get a reply.

JaneJeffer · 15/05/2023 17:00

I don't understand how her parents didn't do something. She was doing her A levels with two black eyes and a broken nose. What did they think had happened?

LadyEloise1 · 15/05/2023 17:33

So many Irish men are like sheep.
They won't call someone out for their bad behaviour towards women.
They won't stick their neck out.
The herd collective wins out.
SadSadSadSad
Bad things happen because good people say nothing.

Did anything happen at the match yesterday ?

honeyrider · 15/05/2023 18:08

He stepped aside but not stepped down as manager on Friday evening. I had the match on in the background and just mentioned to DH the bang of misogyny was striking, the Derry GAA knew what this scumbag was up to and did nothing and then the manager of the other team Mickey Harte - a person who provided a character reference to a convicted rapist at the rape trial just shows what they think of women.

Taytocrisps · 15/05/2023 20:35

Thanks for bringing this to my attention OP. What a brave, brave lady.

Newmum110 · 15/05/2023 22:33

I grew up in a house where there was domestic violence & am strongly against it however I have to say trial by social media is not the way to go. Even in the comments above 2 posters have provided misinformation.
I feel most sorry for the innocent children involved.

JaneJeffer · 15/05/2023 22:57

Newmum110 · 15/05/2023 22:33

I grew up in a house where there was domestic violence & am strongly against it however I have to say trial by social media is not the way to go. Even in the comments above 2 posters have provided misinformation.
I feel most sorry for the innocent children involved.

Which comments?

MILLYmo0se · 16/05/2023 07:50

Newmum110 · 15/05/2023 22:33

I grew up in a house where there was domestic violence & am strongly against it however I have to say trial by social media is not the way to go. Even in the comments above 2 posters have provided misinformation.
I feel most sorry for the innocent children involved.

Which 2 posts have misinformation?
I agree trial by social media is usually not the place to go but if you have already tried all the routes you should (PSNI, social services, the courts) i dont suppose you have any options left

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ColadhSamh · 16/05/2023 09:08

Newmum110 · 15/05/2023 22:33

I grew up in a house where there was domestic violence & am strongly against it however I have to say trial by social media is not the way to go. Even in the comments above 2 posters have provided misinformation.
I feel most sorry for the innocent children involved.

You come on make a vague statement and feck off. Smells like someone with a definite agenda. I have witnessed some of this on other social media sites but didn't expect it on a site primarily for women. Trial by social media? Nicola reached out for help and was rebuffed by most. We see daily how difficult it is for women in this situation to even begin to ask for help but for those who are in a position to do something to reject you hurts deep. To still come back takes a lot of courage. RG statement didn't deny anything but was vague enough it seems to satisfy some. I feel sorry for the children but it is not their mother that is to blame albeit she is the one being punished.

Have you seen the response from Nicola's community?
Have you read Sheila Maguires statement?
Many of those who knew her have spoken out and have stated how difficult it has been to witness. Some tried to help but on their own could do very little. Nicola herself had to be ready.
The way in which Nicola was treated when she went to Enniskillen PSNI, asking for a female officer and having to speak to a male is typical when women ask for help.
I have tried to copy Sheila Maguires statement on social media but for some reason have failed. Google Sheila Maguire Nicola Gallagher and it should be accessible. The incident she refer to was when Nicola was 18.
I could go on and on

This was the Belleek community response at the weekend. If for any reason the link doesn't work it's Rooney's Gift Store on Facebook. A full list of all the businesses who participated in a fund raiser for Fermanagh Women's Aid over the weekend with baskets placed in all shops. Post was 4/5 days ago. Inspiring how the community has come together.

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#IBelieveNicola

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LadyEloise1 · 16/05/2023 10:29

I didn't know that about Mickey Harte @honeyrider. That disappoints me.

Tessisme · 16/05/2023 11:37

That Facebook post is hard to read. What a terrible life she had with that man.

And yes, she is exceptionally brave.

I hope her life will be better now.

Newmum110 · 16/05/2023 14:31

Apologies, I didn't mean to just write and run. I usually only get on to mumsnet in the evening and I posted just before bed last night, not a good idea & will know better next time.

I promise you there is no hidden agenda here I suppose having been that child I am probably looking at it more from their viewpoint and feel it is very hard for them having their family information everywhere. I'm not saying what Nicola did is wrong & while I have complete sympathy for her I have even more sympathy for the poor children who had no choice whatsoever. I do hope that their father is a good father to them seeing as he has full custody & I hope Nicola recovers from her personal problems.

I have to say @MILLYmo0se has probably explained to me why trial by social media had to happen in this situation but I just hate the way (no necessarily in the case but in any situation) people can write whatever they want & make out that they know the facts. I don't mean Nicola, I mean people like me who don't know the ins & outs of the situation.

While it is great that her family, friends & community are now supporting her but I do wonder where they were all the years that she was going through this. In my situation when my mother finally left my father everyone rushed in to tell us all what an assholes he was, everyone knew but didn't help until she broke away from him.

I don't wish to get into an argument with anyone on the Internet so I'm hoping I have explained myself better now.

I wish Nicola all the best & hope that anyone who finds themselves in this situation seeks the help they need to get away.

Nobody deserves this.

JaneJeffer · 16/05/2023 14:44

Well seeing as the PSNI did nothing trial by social media is the only trial he's going to get. Yes I feel for the children but this can't be worse than seeing their mother getting severely beaten by their father on a regular basis.

JaneJeffer · 16/05/2023 14:46

I do hope that their father is a good father to them
How can he be a good father? That's a ridiculous thing to say.

honeyrider · 16/05/2023 14:48

JaneJeffer · 16/05/2023 14:46

I do hope that their father is a good father to them
How can he be a good father? That's a ridiculous thing to say.

I agree with this

Newmum110 · 16/05/2023 14:50

honeyrider · 16/05/2023 14:48

I agree with this

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I mean seeing as he has them full-time. I would hate to think that they weren't being loved on a daily basis.

JaneJeffer · 16/05/2023 14:52

He's already proven that's he's a terrible father by his treatment of their mother.

honeyrider · 16/05/2023 14:55

Just because he has custody of the children doesn't mean he loves them or that he's a good parent. There's a very detailed set of tweets by a social worker working in this area doing the rounds who explains why an abusive father may get custody of children. I haven't time to look for it.

TooBigForMyBoots · 16/05/2023 14:58

Good fathers don't batter their children's mother. He's a violent scumbag. Nicola has been very brave, he can't silence her anymore!

JaneJeffer · 16/05/2023 15:00

Him getting custody is just another way to batter her.

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