Lockdown (almost) over and frugalling continues!

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New thread. All welcome

Glad things are better em.
£11 butchers yesterday as hoping to camp at the weekend so prepare for BBQ.

Hair cut for me and DD today will be £80 ish as children discount not on at minute. Hurray first since January for me. My hair is bonkers.

Better days are good em but when you become grateful for "better days" without addressing the really awful days, you normalise it; and basically give him permission to be completely shitty to you (and your dc) and as long as he is quiet or makes tea the next day then he knows it's OK. It's not OK.

The eggshells and grateful cycle was very unhealthy for me.

Only £10 yesterday topping up dd3's phone, first time in 3 months. Ran out of steam making food, so did tuna mayo sarnies for tea. Need a new meal plan. But at least I didn't run out for a chippy.

A tap pipe blew in the bathroom yesterday - wow our water pressure is good. So need a new flexible pipe today. And the spaniel got out and took himself for a run. Didn't have a third thing go wrong, so I'll be cautious today!

Better days are good em but when you become grateful for "better days" without addressing the really awful days, you normalise it; and basically give him permission to be completely shitty to you (and your dc) and as long as he is quiet or makes tea the next day then he knows it's OK. It's not OK

lonely agree with this 100% he knows his behaviour was not ok over the weekend. He knows how upset and hurt I was. He knows I won’t put up with it.

To be fair to him he does have some good points. The good times massively outweigh the crap. But I know I shouldn’t have to put up with behaviour like that.

Busy day Ystd but productive at work, mum did dinner which was nice.

Stopped at pets at home on way home and spent £30 on pet food.

Going to Aldi in a min and town later, need to take some clothes back so hoping it won't be too spendy....

We are having a huge IT issue at work. My diary is full 8-5 again and I can't do any work. Aaaargh.

Ds is going to dms this is good timing as he had me up again a lot of the night and I am feeling decidedly rubbish

oh wolf i hate it when that happens.

today we are buying a plane. but i have just discovered a flaw in the other sides tax planning. as in they haven't registered for tax. and so possibly have not paid tax on the purchase of the plane. taking a break from arguing with the other sides lawyers that we want documents amended to note that if this comes out of the woodwork and there are costs to get this rectified (which there will be) we won't be held responsible. they will pay up.

sigh.

need to get my steps in today and get a break from dh's sighing and work annoyances. so am going to finish work at 430, and walk to nursery to pick the kids up. i reckon it'll a good hours walk. dh will drive to get them and me. and drive us all home again.

fish finger wraps for lunch. with cheeeeeese.

@lifelongfrugaleer

I have no idea what high blood protein means but I hope it's not bad news lonely in the long run. Hugs from me too.

Em you need to be happy. Everyone will have an opinion about this but the DC will be fine. Children are very resilient. They thrive better in happy homes even if it's more than one.

Hope the stair lift helps lane.

Girlie did you seek advice for DD. Hope she's still not in a food dip. Sorry probably saying that all wrong but I hope ykwim

Nsd today

This was totally the case for my children and me too. However it took me a lot longer than frugaleers to finally decide h was just not good for me my marriage r my children

Just back from town, feel like I've spent elevenbilliionty pounds 🥴

Okay so £37 in Boots on my face cream and mascara.

£103 in top shop on clothes for dd. Am assuming some might go back if they don't fit....

£8 in new look.

Took some clothes back to primark so that was £30 ish back in.

Also spent £64 in Aldi this morning.

Am skint till the end of the month now!!

Life I haven't spoken to the dr re dd yet as she has been a bit better, I'm keeping a close eye though and I have told her support / link person In camhs (she is part way through the assessment process for ASD).

That's the thing happier, people on the outside can tell you all sorts but you have to be ready and also see it yourself before you do it.

Sounds like a good plan girlie.

£90 on hair. Decided not to go very short again but just a tidy to keep on growing it for a bit. £4.49 co-op, £20 stables, £26 cleaner

You know that CV I did the other day & didn't expect much from?..... well I have been shortlisted. Interview on Wednesday. I have also been given a high profile piece of work on the back of an endorsement from my boss and the current person... all in all today has been quite good.

Em I love how you casually drop in that you are buying a plane.... almost like picking up the dry cleaning.

Wolf enjoy the quiet night, and hope the IT got sorted.

Lonely do you get the same as us - we have really acidic water so the radiators and taps need replacing much more often than is usual. We save a fortune on soap, shampoo, detergent et al... I guess it evens out over time.

Well done Unescorted!

A plane, Em??? Pleased you've had a better day with dh. To be honest I think most of us are better for having fresh air, exercise and a bit a time to ourselves which has been difficult lately. Do you think he may be suffering from a touch of depression? Possibly lockdown-related?

Almost an nsd. Dh picked up some fruit earlier. Made pea and parmesan risotto for tea with fresh peas. The dcs had a great time shelling them and more than a few didn't get as far as the risotto!

Well done unescorted

Woooo well done Unescorted that's fantastic. Fingers and toes crossed for you

Should clarify - the plane is for a client. Not for me personally but if I’m lucky I’ll get to go on it. Love a private jet me so very lucky to have the job I do.

I walked to nursery. 7.5km according to Apple watch. Took almost an hour and half. But was lovely.

Nsd for me. technically I would have signed off on a £3.6mill payment for said plane but tax issue so....

Your job sounds so much more glamorous than mine Em!

The perks are worth all the effort and stress snuggly

New dh issue. His phone is broken. Apparently whenever I call he can’t answer it because the slider doesn’t work because the screen is cracked. works for work though although maybe this is because I try to FaceTime him when I look like this #glam

That is gimpish em

Thanks peeps.. I am not sure it has my name on it, but you never know.

thank u mrs he lives in his fireman Sam sunsuit. Very lucky with the parents getting on they didn’t when I was little but I think having the boys made them realise they had 2.

It was luvly love

Thank u em! My mum hates the name lol. Luv the mask.

Thank u north

I cancelled my Disney+ subscription 2day. Decided 4 Xmas I will buy sum Disney DVDs second hand will work out cheaper in the long run.

Do you think em that you might be at risk of almost oversharing what could be confidential information? You provide quite alot of information regarding your profession and location and share photos identifying you. You mentioned a receptionist last week that didn't obtain all relevant details and now are speaking specifically about a transaction, albeit without mentioning clients etc.. But it's not a stretch that someone that works or knows you will link you with these posts and it might not be the most professional approach. If I was the receptionist or the client you were posting about I wouldn't be impressed about you sharing details. You do come across as a hard worker, loyal and a great parent but I couldn't help cringe a little at the level of detail you were sharing.

Fox I'm not sure that what people share is for you to police.

I don't think it's policing, more a gentle "be careful". I work in a similar field. The last two posts potentially have enough information to enable authorities to start identifying the firm and parties to the transaction, when read alongside previous posts, which would undoubtedly undermine the legal agreements. I'd get those deleted to be on the safe side.

I am sure you know what you are doing Em 💐

Off to Mum & Bob's in a bit. Waitrose first for prescriptions and a little bit of grocery .
We are off tomorrow 😀 so l am meeting with my Bff for a coffee and a catch up . Am looking forward to seeing her. She's a really old friend who has the same family problems as me so l will be in good company 😃
Have a lovely day everyone 😀

fox cringe away. it's not for you to police what I've shared here. if anything i have said is deemed offensive in any way then please report my posts and accept my apologies for any offence caused.

namechange i seriously doubt that the authorities would be scouring mumsnet. but again you could argue that about any thread.

Not how i wanted to start today...

to work now, then gym at lunchtime, training session with trainer. another postnatal session (at what point do you stop being "postnatal" - baby is almost 1...), i have 3 sessions left with trainer then i'm quitting the gym and moving to other gym which is less full of body building meatheads, and is actually closer to the house and has a pool. if i have a membership the kids swim free and DH has a reduced rate for the pool.

dh is out tonight with friends for a sort of stag do. i am hoping that dd goes to sleep rather quickly tonight. since mondays episode of 4 hours of crying, followed by a night wake up we were down to 1 hour of screaming last night and no wake ups.

low spendy day today - need to buy apples which i can do at shop after gym.

New gym sounds much better em! I’m excited about ours opening again, I wasn’t planning to rush back but I think I need some more normality and something to get me properly out of the house. They’re doing booked sessions of 50min. Not sure about swimming rules yet.

Visits were ok yesterday, the guy from social care is going to request a few other adaptations for DH, he’s sad they’re needed but at least they should help. The stair rail (it’s just like an extra bannister really not like a lift thing) might take longer as the walls aren’t right for the standard kind so they need to get permission for the more expensive one.

2 more days of the school year. Well 1.5 really as DD1 finishes at 12. Yay!