Spending October organising our spends - friendly frugaleers this way!

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New thread because old one is almost full. All welcome. fluffy can you be a doll and please post the helpful threads? X x

Hmm I’ve had 3 glasses of Prosecco in 45 mins. I will apologise for any subsequent drunken ramblings now

Drunken ramblings always amusing wolf

too at the Ikea talk..

The chicken I think was maybe the meal they had cooked the night previously. It wasn't off or anything, but they'd eaten some. Maybe they forgot, but the house was honestly the filthiest we've ever moved into. I made DH dash to buy new toilet seats as there was green mould under the ones left....

Yippee cag, great news about the workshop.

Encouraging news then about your DS North, at least heading in the right direction.

£11 feed shop on chicken feed and sawdust, man the bills are low now there's no pony. That will be it for three weeks, it was £20 per week in winter.
£80 ish on cushions at M&S, but ordered for selection, likely to keep one.

Visit to DM was okay, I just sat there while she talked about DB

wolf I've been trying to study & quite frankly wish I'd had 3 glasses of prosecco

DD's at a party until 7pm this is the first party she's been to that isn't a lunch time thing.

Cheesy pasta for dinner. No doubt ds won't like it. He's currently watching Harry Potter in Russian

Curvy dh saved most of the washing whilst I had a meltdown

Go wolf!!

I have found a shit tonne of dust, lots of empty dog food tins, and nothing exciting or missing. Bagged for tip. Space cleared, must now hoover and mop/wipe over. Then I can move my to-ebay stash from the living room. Still raining here...

em the rhino belongs to the house, and thus needs to be on display keeping guard. Seeing as your house probably has no/shonky locks on it now, might dh like to sleep there tonight? Just to keep an eye out?

My current house was left full. I downsized from a 4 bed rambly farmhouse, and had quite enough of my own stuff. I sold a lot on ebay (betamax video stuff is very niche nerd), gave the electricals away, and the furniture had a "I'm free, please take me home" sign on it out front, plus a lot of tips to the tip. There is still stuff in the loft.

Our feed shop has a loyalty scheme so we get the odd 10 quid off here and there Jam.
I love it in there , all leathery and smells of hay .
Have started the hens back onto mealworms to pep them up over the winter
Its a massive squabble to eat as many as fast as they can!
Very warm here
Not sure I will lock the pophole tonight as they might get too warm.

£41 Boots
£28 H&M
£50 Morrison’s

All clothes other than £12 food. Baby stuff was mostly in sale so got a fair amount for that, DD got two pairs of jeggings, shoes and a warm hoodie, and DS got... nothing 🙄 luckily he is chilled and not fussed if I just order whatever so I’ll do the Asda stuff later, he also apparently has some hand me downs coming from a friend soon.

And now home. Very glad of my bus pass today! At least I had a really good walk to the library earlier but I’m wiped now. Dinner is courtesy of the microwave

Quite. Yes please

£4 up so far on bets on rugby

Just catching up now while sorting out the new clothes (DD looks so grown up 😭) keeping an eye on strictly. Oh I do love Danny, doesn’t his son look the image of him!

Well done on getting through the visit with your mum jam and OMG that rhino em did you ever read the Pedlars threads in years gone by, it could easily have been sold by them :o

jam Your db is fab isn't he?

cag H&M club sends out regular discounts if you join up.

I watched ewfl, they seemed a really nice family and genuinely engaged with it all. I would have used frozen cod from Iceland though.

Nectar double up is in November. I'll get the Christmas champagne, we had Mumm last year and it was mediocre.

Yay wreck.
Spends
£24 haircut
£11.48 waitrose on some vegan bits for me, stir fry and chocolate
£21 primark on 3 jumpers and tights.

Sorted ds’ clothes. Finally. He’s now out of 9-12 and into 12-18. Yay.

I’ve sorted three bags for the charity shop. I think all we need are maybe some more joggers. So will pick some up at some point next week.

Dh has come home. He’s picked a rose from our rose bush. I had no idea we had one. Beautiful orange peachy roses. Yay.

Still a million things to do. But getting there.

Ive been offline for about 24 hours and it’s been busy on here! Sorry I can’t reference everything /one. But...

Glad that you are happy with the new house Em. I’d be so impatient to be in I don’t think I could wait past the delivery of a fridge and kettle!

Cag I found your post about living with ASD really helpful and insightful, thank you so much for taking the time to write it. I finding accounts of experiencing ASD from adults (or expressive /articulate children) to be so helpful. @MeadowHay has also helped me to understand better. I know my DS will have his own particular strengths, sensitivities and quirks but it really helps me to have empathy when I find it hard to understand why, for instance, he can take so long to do something really simple. Or why he can get upset over something that most kids his age wouldn’t think twice about. I strongly get the sense that it’s truly exhausting being him . I try my best to just keep his stress to a minimum but I know I sometimes contribute to that too when he can sense I am impatient with / stressed by him. I must really try harder not to show that as he doesn’t need more pressure.

Karaoke last night, I don’t know what the final cost is as we need to reckon it up. It was huge fun though. DH ate with our friends beforehand but I couldn’t get there in time (waiting for my sister to take over the kids before I could leave) so I had leftovers at home. Frugal and diet win there, though I missed some of the chat. In bed just after 2.30am and up with the kids at 6.15am 😫😫😫. Today has not been productive. It’s my lie-in tomorrow though and I am going to relish it!

Dd is really clingy at the moment and won’t even go to DH, and she’s usually just as happy with him as me. I think it’s the separation impact of nursery settling. She’s been literally clinging to me all day and crying if I go out of sight. I am dreading her doing her full day on Monday, I feel horrible about it. But I need to work.

That said, DS has a nasty case of diarrhoea this evening so if that doesn’t clear up I won’t be doing any work! I’ve told DH he may have to take his turn at time off with sick kids soon. He’s not had to think about that for the last couple of years while I’ve been off. Hey ho.

Just watched ewfl what a sweet family. Goes to show how easy it is to slip into bad habits and how far a little nudge in the right direction can take you.

I was watching the swaps wondering do they get to keep all the fancy Kilner jars 🤔😍

Thank you so much seacow 💐 I think it is easier to share and read info and experiences now, much more so than when we were kids, thanks to the good old internet, so it’s nice that there’s more understanding and awareness out there :) but what really must make a difference to DS is having a lovely mum like you 😘

I forgot other spends today, £5 signed book from the author who may do the event, it looks amazing! £1 on a bus badge for the Caglets’ bus obsessed friend 😍 and £13 lunch during which rowan threw a strop and DS lost a transformer 😖

I am home. I am six sheets to the wind. I am having a cuppa and Cat hing up with strictly. I will try and catch up with the thread tomorrow

Fairly spendy day today. Softplay and a trip to the local garden centre. Not as bad as usual as remembered to take a couple of drinks for in the car and DH was sulking so didn't eat lunch.

The talk of ikea made me smile, I love but hate that place always go in with the intention of spending very little and going for one thing then come out with a car full of stuff (4x4) the same tends to happen in costco.

Urgh. Up to drop Ds off for his activity. No real sleep. Hoping to drop back off after he goes

Hello, can I join? I've just worked out the total amount of my debt and am going to have to start very aggressively living within my means. Which will be fun as the children's father has randomly stopped paying any money towards his children. Anyway, TMI etc but need to implement accountability so here I am.

Welcome warm usual advice here, in the first instance, is to check you've got the cheapest deals for utilities, insurance etc. Sign up to TopCashback (if you do and no one else minds I can give a referral link). Is there anywhere you think you can cut back?

Wolf hope you can go back to bed!

I managed a good 10.5 hours sleep with just the odd stir. Ds managed to shout for dh last night instead of me

Hi warm welcome.

Super helpful here. Why don’t you give us a breakdown of outgoings and I’m sure someone can help you suggest ways to trim.

Usual ones are changing energy suppliers broadband suppliers etc.

I’m working out a budget for us today. For our joint account. I’ve done my personal one.

Also riding £30. In the pouring rain. Sigh.

Em we have rain forecast all day too. I think it'll be a day of homework and housework. Will need to use the drier for the bedding.

Warm Welcome, post spends if you feel comfortable and we'll see if there’s things you can get cheaper.

Wreck don’t mind at all.

My car insurance cash back tracked at £35, not £50 🙄.

Kit Excellent, try and time all trips for his sulks. It will save loads.

Mim I LOVE the idea of your kids doing a ewfl on you “pre cut broccoli mother? What’s wrong with buying this uncut one?.

Wolf 💤** and for you!

Welcome warm - what a shame your ExH is not meeting his responsibilities. You can, and will, do this on your own (well, with everyone here to help!) and it will be a big 🖕🏻to him when you do!

Em sounds like your DH and FiL are very gung-ho with the new house. Enthusiasm is great but I'm sure you have a billion other jobs before unblocking the fireplace!

I'm loving this weather. Love a good storm! Although we're currently in Wales and have to cross over the bridge later - hope it's not too windy!

Welcome warm there's very little that's TMI here to be fair

My top tips would be never dump any food, leftovers for lunches or into fridge/freezer for another day. Crusts of bread into ziploc bag in freezer for making breadcrumbs etc. Of course all this depends on size of fridge/freezer. Odds & ends go on wrap pizzas here.
Since I joined this thread I rarely throw out any food, until recently when H finally moved out but even then it made dinners for ddog

Record all spends. I love ynab and have a referral link if you want it pm me. It's a forecasting app.

Didn't post at all here yesterday & not going to do epic catch up post either.
Yesterday's spends
€100.84 Aldi
€6 soft play centre for extras
€4.60 newspaper & lucky bag for ds
€17.55 at chemist on pill & actifed

Advice here is great for a long time I didn't listen when I was asked when I was going to LTB but I'm glad I came to my senses