"I managed to (more or less) hold it together until the point when I was leaving and saw dad’s shoes lined up by the door." That's so sad Seacow 
. As Unescorted says, it's the little things that catch you out - could be a song or a movie or a phrase or a much loved china ornament sitting on the mantelpiece. It's a pity he doesn't want a eulogy but maybe you could ask people to send you a memory or a story and put it together in a memory book of some description. We often have wakes in Ireland where the coffin is brought back to the house and remains there for a day or two. Neighbours, relatives and friends (including children) call to the house to pay their respects and the family make millions of sandwiches and cups of tea. Sometimes there's a sing song and sometimes people tell funny stories and laugh and sometimes they cry. It's an outlet for people to release their emotions. It probably sounds a bit macabre if you're not used to it and on TV they're usually portrayed as very boozy affairs. Tbh these days most people are driving so they wouldn't risk drinking alcohol. It's just a nice send off for the deceased person in their own home, before the body is removed to the church.
Wolf I'm sorry you're going through such a difficult time
Lonely ewwww to standing on a rat 
Sunny hope the music teacher helps
Thishat glad your mum was in a position to help you
em glad you enjoyed your night. Love the photo 
NSD yesterday. I need to do a top up shop today because I'm running low on essentials such as coffee (very essential!) and fabric conditioner.
It was a lovely sunny morning here so I went for my walk to the castle and enjoyed a sit by the river for a few minutes. It's good for the soul - the rustle of the breeze through the leaves and the trickle of the water and the sound of birdsong and the hum of traffic in the background. It's clouded over now. Hope it doesn't rain.
DH is making lunch (an omelette) and dinner (steak sandwiches). I'm planning a clear out of my wardrobe. I've already got rid of a few bags of clothes which were mainly mine and DDs. Without ever having read Marie Kondo, I'm aiming to keep the clothes I love and wear all the time and get rid of the things I'm keeping 'just in case'. And obviously I'll keep a few nice things I don't wear all the time but will come in useful if I'm invited somewhere fancy. I'm paying DD to help me. She's very brutally honest and will make it clear if she thinks something is unfashionable or if i haven't worn it for ages .