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Unless it’s pholocodeine cough syrup it wouldn’t work anyway.

Snake oil.

Good to know fluffy no idea what he wanted if I’m honest. Just “chesty cough syrup” I was planing on buying him the rankest looking stuff I could find.

Ive just been into ds room. Dh slept there last night as he’s coughing burping and making horrific noises in his sleep. He’s put the spare duvet for our king bed on the double duvet in there. Ffs. I told him yesterday the duvet cover needed to go on the bed. Will have to remind him to change it now and then it can be rewashed.

If you’ve got any co-codamol tablets they’ll stop a cough.

Oooh useful to know. Mentioned this to dh but he can’t take cocodamol because he gets constipated from it. And that causes more whinging.

Will bear it in mind for when I get the cough though.

I am prepping salad boxes for the next couple of days. Dh wants a sandwich. We have no bread. I’m not sure how he thinks that’s going to work.

I have haloumi, chickpeas (currently roasting) carrot grated, tomatoes, avocado, and sweet corn. In my honest opinion that’s not a salad unless it’s got chicken or tuna on it. Or bacon.

Well he can’t have pholcodeine then.

Is he finding it hard to adjust to the baby?.

Yes. I think so. hes In a bit of a funk. I’ve suggested he speak to someone about it. There are some amazing people here who deal with post natal depression (if you like) in dads.

He commented today that I’ve coped with going back to work so well (so that’s finally been recognised two weeks in...) I said it’s because I’ve had to.

I can’t go to work and sit there feeling sad/guilty etc. I do. But can’t let it show. I’m there to work. Not to mope.

I think he is finding the fact his friends have drifted away hard.

I think he is dreading his mother’s visit.

He hasn’t been to the gym for a month. And we’re all feeling the stress from that.

Is he the first dad in his group?

I don’t think men realise the impact of kids, they think it’ll all be exactly the same but with a baby in tow.

Reading the earlier posts to fluff em I was going to say he's being petulant, but from your last post I think I'd agree he needs to talk to someone on the outside of it too. It's funny how mums just get on with all the changes, but dads can throw strops and tantrums and need special treatment, when we just plod on with it. (Pnd aside, but then those that get that usually carry on far too long). It's some lumpy shit I'm sure you could do without just now though em.

Orthadontist today, he shaved dd's tooth, took about 5 seconds. She now has a matching pair of front teeth. She also has elastics to deal with which join the top and bottom braces together.

So I bought her lunch, and got more bits, £24 as it was Sainsburys. £31 in the range on some art stuff for her, and craft stuff for me like I need more sequins Mum-sore-teeth-guilt.

Yes first dad. First one to get married.

We’d usually be at someone’s for a bbq/drinks today or a bank holiday. The invites have dried up somewhat.

I get it. A piss up with friends in the pub is not really child friendly. A piss up at home not super child friendly and I suspect people assume we’re doing family things so don’t invite as they don’t want to intrude.

Two of his closest friends do still “bother” though. I’ve been in touch with one recently (he’ll be ds’ godfather) and asked him to schedule their get togethers more regularly but keep it the same date iyswim (so last Monday of the month and golf every other Saturday just a suggestion) then I can plan it in. Dfriend needed the stability of knowing when he was busy! So he’s happy with this and he’s going to sell it to dh. He’s a builder and is actually working down the road from my office so tomorrow he’s going to come with me to get ds from Nursery, and walk him about while I gym so I don’t have to wait for dh. there’ll be about 30 minutes where they’re alone and I’m not worried. He’ll cope! But it means I can go to a spin class. Yay!

Agree lonely it’s all shit I could do without. At any time really but specifically now when I’m back at work. My friend (who’s dd is 3) told me this would happen. It happened to her and her bf. She didn’t give me any tips on dealing with it just have to work through it or give up. And I don’t want to give up.

Made yum salad. Dh seems in a better mood and I’m taking 20 minutes. Told him I was having a time out. And if he so much as disturbed me I’d add time on to my time out. I’ve set an alarm which may be unnecessary. But he needs to learn.

Then we’re going to the park. Ds I wants to swing on a swing.

I found the losing-friends thing hard too Em. I was in a technical job before ds and all my friends were men. The whole bf baby thing was so not their thing, so I got dropped from all my social groups at once when ds came along. Unfortunately it meant that when things got tough for me, no one sent a search party, and things just got steadily tougher. I have no idea what the answer is to that, but it's definitely a problem.

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em there's a moleskin notebook and a book about giving zero fucks

unescorted just saw the notebook is for doing watercolours.

Sorry for being an enabler today!

Boycat is back at the vets, he is now jaundiced and looks awful 😢 they are giving him fluids, pain meds and running more bloods. If he doesn't improve in next 48 hours I think he'll have to be pts, poor puss.

Have filled in insurance forms and am praying they will pay out....

Poor cat, he’s had a chequered medical history hasn’t he?. I hope he pulls through. I wonder what caused jaundice though?.

Oh girlie thats really awful. Is he very old? Is he the diabetic? Poor puss cat.

AIBU - really funny

poor boy cat he has been through the mill

It's not so warm up here today so I'm regretting wearing shorts to work. Even my office is not massively warm.
Spent £3.25 in the work cafe as I'm bloody starving today. I'm blaming DS for bf-ing all night long. And £2.75 on a posh coffee. Boo.

Sea your Granny sounds fab, mine was not dissimilar in her frugal stretching of food.

DH has had to work quite hard to maintain friendships now too Em, especially as he's the first dad and none of them even have nieces/nephews so no experience of what small children are like. He often meets up with them if I'm working on the weekend and ends up leaving because they don't understand that even sitting calmly in a park in the sunshine is not going to happen with a mobile toddler. Dfriend sounds lovely and understanding though so hopefully that'll help.

Poor boycat Girlie I didn't think about cats being able to get jaundice, I hope the bloods come back with something quickly. Is he an old boy?

He is only 8 yo but has been on insulin for diabetes for the last 4 years, the vet wondered if he had been poisoned and asked about lillies. I have no lillies in the house or garden for this exact reason but I guess he could have touched something in someone else's garden.

The vet seemed confident this isn't linked to his diabetes, poor boy has just been unlucky again 😦

Sorry to hear that, Girlie. Poor boy.

I loved those stories about your granny, Seacow. Some wonderful memories to cherish.

Yesterday was about a tenner in spends and today's an NSD.

Today was £4.25. Olive oil and garlic bread.

Nsd.

Sorry about boycat girlie

Poor boycat Girlie, hope he gets better soon
£4 parking and 5.60 working lunch. Can reclaim both.

Em do not do the shopping, sneak out to eat if you have to. Dh needs to shop

Ah poor boy cat.

£8.40 on fruit.

Spendy tomorrow as traveling for work but can claim it all back

Chicken nuggets and chips for tea, ds had beans and chips. Classy!