Frugaleers chatting and saving in the April sunshine.

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Welcome to the new thread. This is a support thread for chatting and discussion of family budgeting.

We're getting the knack of our holiday. It turns out that going to services at the Cathedral is the thing to do here. We went to Evensong last night, which was amazing, and then Sung Eucharist this morning, which was also excellent. I'm not sure if it's the acoustics or the people, but the music rings like a bell, and I can feel it in my whole body. Very nice indeed.

I dressed up in my nice clothes to try to jolly along the chaps, but dh just looked perplexed, and then my nice shoes got a bit wet in the rain and one of the soles fell off. I had forgotten how complicated it was to dress in proper women's clothes. I'm back in a blokes jumper from EWM again.

The rain continues to rain, but dh and ds are watching "blacksmith tv" on youtube, so I get to have a go of my laptop.

Yes em milk is very important for them in the first year then once a year they can do onto cows milk and should drink from a cup not a bottle.

Seacow sorry you're having a hard time.

£117 Asda but that included school swimwear for the dc, leggings for dd and trousers for ds. Also got 14 meals for that.

£40 fuel. It's so cheap at Asda it's a shame it's almost an hour away so we never go.

I've got a weird rash, any ideas?! It was itchy yesterday when it first appeared but antihistamines stopped the itch.

The drink from a cup rule isn't the end of the world either. My ds used a straw until he was 6, as he couldn't get the cup thing right he thought it was much funnier to throw them on the floor

I had exactly that rash across my chest a few days ago, and then it completely vanished without becoming anything interesting at all.

To be fair dh doesn’t do the boots orders so I’ll continue to order milky until ds no longer wants it and get a fuck ton of points he (dh) also said “we” should potty train ds soon. Oh how I laughed.

Ds has a sippy cup now too so he can have sips of water. He’s not too good at sippy cup. I gave him the cup from my thermos the their day just to play with - so proper cup with a handle. He held it by the handle and put it to his mouth

Em there's a video on fb at the moment of a newborn drinking from a cup, apparently they have the ability straight away. So cool.

Where on earth is your DH getting these child rearing tips from em

Erm it sounds familiar to some things my MIL came out with including tying DS (age 9 months) onto a potty
She was told ...

Formula Milk until a year then cows milk. Potty training when DS is ready, which might be aged 3.
Drill these into dh.

£10.60 on chips, I have a sore throat as one got stuck. The older I get the more sticky my throat seems. £6 Hobbycraft on soft toy hangers, £8.50 beach toys, £4 coffee.

I didn’t think Boots gave points on formula? In the Uk anyway. Something to do with not being allowed to promote it.

Definitely milk is advised up to a year. Dd doesn’t take loads as she eats a lot of solids for her age (and I don’t think she’s mad keen on milk!), but it’s still almost half what she had before she was weaned. Mostly taken in the latter half of the day.

Lonely your DDs won’t recognise their room!

Saw Granny today, it was a nice relaxed visit but only because we steered away from difficult subjects. However, i suspect it’s the last time I will see her so I cried a lot afterwards. I realised at lunchtime she really is almost totally unable to eat due to ‘bowel problems’. I think if she has a bowel blockage she may become acutely ill at any time and they will give minimal treatment due to her age. So my dilemma is: what to say to my Mum? Who will be put in an impossible situation as she can’t leave dad (and I think he may be weaker than they are letting on). My poor lovely mum . I hate the thought of her feeling guilty for one or other for ever more, she can’t win. And it’s going to be so hard to lose her mum and husband close together. Thanks for letting me vent, everyone

We are moving very slowly homewards on the M4. DS is very happy, he keeps piping up from the back: ‘we’re going home to the microwave’. I knew he is very fond of its digital countdown timer... but it’s obviously the heart of the home for him

Glad your holiday is looking up Sunny. As you are enjoying the cathedral services you could always drive up for one from time to time even when not on holiday, as it’s quite close!

I wondered earlier if it was the mil giving parenting advice.

NSD.

Dh told me my absence at mills was questioned. God knows why he told me as 1) He didn’t ask me to go with him and 2) he knew I was at home doing all the housework I’m sure I did yesterday but someone came in during the night to fuck shit up 3) He only nipped in to grab something he needed 4) He says visits take too long if I go too 5) I take a while to get ready & if I’d been asked to go we’d only just be getting back.

Utterly bonkers.

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Seacow I love that your ds loves the microwave so much! Yes no loyalty points or offers allowed on first milk but ok for follow on I think?

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I BF mine until 2 -they didnt really like drinking milk after that and just had cheese and yogurts.
Water in a sippy cup from 6 months or so.

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Em if you figure a way of potty training six month olds you’ll be mortgage free next year.

My understanding re potty training is the required muscle control doesn’t develop until they are 18 months old. Of course that didn’t stop ML from having all of her children “clean and dry by 12 months”

NSD for me today. Frugal fail, dropped my phone in the toilet. Can’t remember if I have insurance on it.

A colleague of mine was guilted by her mum as she and her dsis were apparently dry at 9 months 🙄

None of them ever offer to move in and potty train the gc though do they?. It should be a thing. Mils move in and hand you a potty trained child a week later.

Like those intensive driving courses. But with actual shit.

Points are not allowed on first milk, or indeed any promotion. Any other milk can be promoted

I suspect mil has something to do with it. However, according to Dm I was completely dry (and walking) by the time I was a year old. Ds will do everything at his own pace.

He is doing so so well. He recognises people (Dm &df he squeales and cackles at, dsis he chuckles at and waves his arms about). It’s lovely. He can roll back to front. And sit up. Almost. For a little bit - but he’s learning to stabilise himself. I purposely haven’t read when he’s meant to roll/crawl/sit up etc as I figure every baby’s different. So we’re just happily winging it.

I thought I’d get points on formula too. But it’s only the follow on milk. I bought some the other day. Hoorah. Points. Ds has just chomped his way through whizzed up chicken and sweet potato. And I’ve given him a cucumber stick to play with.

FWIW I have £101 on my boots card now. Yippee.

MIL told me she had DH "clean and dry" at 9 months-this involved holding him over a potty from 6 weeks all bloody day
Urgh she would really emphasise the "clean" like pooing is shameful
Spendy but planned spendy day in the garden centre .
Edging,soil,pots rhubarb,onion sets,shallot sets .New trowel and fork plus secateurs for me .Posts for fruit trees £133 .
Ebay £31 for a Seasalt dress I have been after for ages .

Cakes baked plus a Nigella supper onion pie .
Sausages,mini baked seasalted potsand salad for dinner.(leftovers tomorrow)
Neighbour gave us rhubarb so cooked with fresh eggy proper custard
Seadont you dare go
We all have our vents and I hope your DS is happy when he sees his kitchen appliances

Where I live if a new born can’t be breastfed for some reason whilst in Hospital they’re given milk to sip from a cup. It could be their mums milk or if could be donated milk. That way, it’s said, they can take to the breast later.

Yes, both of mine could sip from a cup from birth. I only found this out because I was trying to keep bf options open when having difficulties. I expect all babies can but most people never try!

Well, unless there is a family catastrophe I will be jolly tomorrow because MY NEW FRONT DOOR IS BEING INSTALLED AT LAST! Must remember to take a ‘before’ photo of the tatty one. I have also just ordered a video doorbell - £148 . Our area is being targeted at the mo by various scamsters so I will not be answering the door to unknown people luckily I know my Yodel, Hermes and DPD chaps

10 mins from home... long day. DS May be excited about his reunion with the microwave but personally I am going to be pleased to see the washing machine

I have kissed my house 😘🏰