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Frugaleers chatting and saving in the April sunshine.

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SunnyLikeThursday · 25/03/2018 17:43

Welcome to the new thread. This is a support thread for chatting and discussion of family budgeting.

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lifelongfrugaleer · 07/04/2018 20:51

Hey meadow, how's the HG?

AuditAngel · 07/04/2018 20:55

My iPad keeps jumping to the bottom, very annoying.

Yesterday £40 on petrol on the journey home. DH spent €33 on 6 bottles of red at the Urotunnel, plus we spent about €20 buying breakfast before leaving.

Today £83 on a small shop to cover half the week, to give me time to do an online shop. I'm not feeling great, got a really bad headache, which is back today. £20 split between 2 cards for a joint party DD2 was invited to. Not really time to buy a present today (invitation came via Messenger while away) so took the easy way out.

Then, DS was working, which I didn't know, DD2 ate at the party, leaving just DD1 and I for dinner. She wouldn't eat what DS and I were supposed to eat, so £16 in Waitrose, for a couple of pies, some snackerjacks, fingerellas, some diet cokes and chocolate.

Taking the kids bowling tomorrow, meeting a friend, plus need to order a Groupon for taking out DD1 and her sleepover friend next Saturday

LonelyOversharer · 07/04/2018 22:57

Evening all.

What a day! Didn't sleep well, the wind blew the (not on its hinges) door to the dd's room over at 4am, which scared the shit out of us all. I have put bonding plaster on nearly all of the wall, need one more bucket to complete the job. Scraped and scrubbed the floor. Tidied round dd2's bed (stupid high sleeper), a full binbag there.

Tonight I did the vat. A reclaim this time, basically we haemorrhaged money last quarter. We should never have been vat registered. Never taken over the required threshold of money. Two more returns (to the end of our accounts year) and we'll come off being a vat company, tis stupid for the tiny amount of business we are doing now.

The whole house is a dusty tip. We had homemade pizza for tea. At least it was a nsd.

CremeEggThief · 07/04/2018 22:59

£6.10 on travel and £25 in Primark. I got 2 pairs of jeggings and 5 cotton-rich teeshirts for that, so well chuffed. I also used my John Lewis voucher for a free tea and cheese scone and remembered to bring along my water bottle. Not a bad spend for an afternoon out in Newcastle!

ChristmasSeacow · 08/04/2018 01:47

Which room are you plastering again Lonely? I thought it was the sitting room but now confused about whether it is your dds’ room. Either way I remain totally impressed at you tackling it yourself!

So glad to hear from you Meadow but sorry about poorly family/ gpigs Sad. The pram (and cot) really got to me too! I dohrgthink youvsgould feel bad about family helping out, family buying things lie pram seems quite common and I’m sure they want to help. I’ve been collecting useful bits and bobs for you if you’d like them, will PM you in the next couple of days.

tayto I’m always so impressed you remember everyone!

North sorry you are not up to full power, take care andcdobt feel rushed by the school holidays. A bit of boredom /self entertainment is good for kids!

Sunny I also wondered why you are suffering from a more repetitive diet if self catering? Doesn’t sound a though you are enjoying being away too much, hope you have some good day trips at least.

I am wide awake as I was awoken by dd for her night feed an hour ago but then managed to miss the bottle when pouring out the ready made formula in the dark and covered myself in milk- doh. So DH did the feed while I cleaned up Hmm. Then I lay awake worrying about Granny so thought you lot could distract me while I caught up! Girlie a caravan would have been great. Tbh we always go self catering so we have living space to chill and I can cook for DS (also more bedrooms). Only reason we didn’t this time was that it was a bit last-minute and I couldn’t find anywhere that would let us have just 3 nights in the school hols - everywhere I found was for whole weeks but i didn’t have much time to look.

Day out today was hard going. We’ve done that steam train many times. It was fine on the way out (apart from DS being upset that we weren’t going home Sad) - he likes the train and the boat. Problem was entertaining him in Dartmouth till return ferry time. We hung out in a cafe but he was very wriggly and wouldnt stay at the table. Also all the cafes allowed dogs and DS is seriously phobic so that was... interesting. And finally he had a meltdown on the harbour as he was desperate to go home but the ferry wasn’t ready and waiting. That drew quite a crowd and was a little scary as he kept trying to bolt and I was afraid he’d fall into the water. Finally he won’t use public loos so eventually wet himself. At least I had spare clothes but another big drama... Suffice to say I had a large glass of wine with dinner... home tomorrow and I might literally kiss my house when I get there.

I think I will drop DH and DS off by the sea tomorrow morning (though probably that will result in a wet trouser meltdown - he refuses to wear waterproofs btw 🙄) and go to see Granny with dd. It won’t be a long visit as we’ve a long drive but I can’t shake the feeling this may be the last time I’ll see her. I wish I felt she was happier in the care home. I think the fact that it is predominantly for dementia is really awful for her as she cared for my grandad with dementia at home for almost 10 years, until he moved into a home in 2014 (and died 6m later). Hard years for her and I think it makes it harder for her to keep company with the other residents now. So I get the impression she stays in her cell room all the time and, frankly, waits for her time to be up Sad.

Sorry to bring the thread down, I think perhaps I should retire for a few months till the worst of the present misery is over!

On a good note DS climbed into my lap at dinner and covered me in kisses. He’s such a lovely boy, just struggles so much with change.

I’m going to do some internet shopping now. Coat for dd and jeans for DS , Tu. Hope I feel tired soon as we’ve a long drive tomorrow!

ChristmasSeacow · 08/04/2018 01:56

I got this coat for dd, how cute is this?

tuclothing.sainsburys.co.uk/p/Pink-Watermelon-Rain-Coat-%280-24-months%29/133162089

And dinosaur pants for DS Wink

ChristmasSeacow · 08/04/2018 02:03

I’m lying in a milky wet patch Angry

lifelongfrugaleer · 08/04/2018 07:29

Ah sea that's tough going, you don't need to leave the thread, talk about it as much as you want.

Going to the beach today. Chippie lunch.

Loveabaconsandwich · 08/04/2018 08:17

Don’t go seacow, we want to support you because you know we all care ☺️

laska I went inside a customers amazing campervan the other day. I could imagine you having it and enjoying your retirement. What van are you after getting? I will keep an eye out and see if I can take a peak the next time one comes in because someone has reversed into a tree

Cagliostro · 08/04/2018 08:40

Morning all. Seacow don’t go, it’s not allowed we will miss you too much Thanks and I do hope it helps a little to vent here Thanks

Off to see DH do his last hour (after introducing the Caglets to the wonders of a mcdonalds breakfast! :o They’ve never had one) - he’s really disappointed though, he’s struggling this morning and won’t make his target of 100 miles :( I do wonder if this will mean he tries a third year in 2019, he did say this would be the last one. But then he said that last year too Hmm crazy man.

mammymammyIRL · 08/04/2018 09:04

I'm a disaster for keeping up these days

Spends yesterday
€2 birthday invites for dd
€1.60 newspaper
€2.40 cream & custard to take to a friend's for dinner

Friday
€147 grocery delivery from SuperValu used €15 off voucher

SunnyLikeThursday · 08/04/2018 09:05

love I developed really difficult food intolerance in ds's baby years, and it hasn't really got better yet. Ds had obstructive apnoea for years, and my wheels kind of fell off when he finally slept through. I was basically house-bounds for two years, which is how I came to the frugalleers really, just for a bit of company. I was discussing it with the man at my ASD interview and so it's kind of focused in my mind just now. In fairness, living on beef, spring greens and potatoes is not a bad diet, and is a heck of a lot better for my teeth than the rubbish I was eating before. Thanks for asking. Smile

Christmas Yes you're right. It's not the holiday that's the problem really. My gp and that ASD bloke are trying to sort out my food intolerance trouble and it's making my brain a bit knotted. Also ds is still bored, which means I'm working double time as entertainment, but without any lego, while also hand washing dishes.

I'm really sorry to hear your holiday has been so hard and your granny is struggling. Please don't retire from the thread. This is exactly the time to be here so we can be your listening people. Do keep telling us all about it, if you can. The coat is lovely. SmileSmileSmile Is there any possibility of getting your granny a mobile phone on the same network as you or something so she can have unlimited free calls to two friends and family numbers? I did that with my Mum when she was in hospital and it helped.

Tayto I had no idea what a newborn baby looked like before ds was born. It was all a bit of a surprise really. I was really excited about building the pram and cot though. I enjoyed that bit a lot. Allen keys rock

Sunday today, I see. Wet, but definitely Sunday.

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ChristmasSeacow · 08/04/2018 09:21

Ha ha, I love an Allen key too! I also love the inside of campervans. All that small stuff and compact storage

Granny got a mobile when she moved into the home last month. She’s not really got the hang of it yet though so it’s often out of juice. She’s also a bit difficult to chat to on the phone as her hearing’s not great. However, she is a fan of letters and the ‘newsy notelet’, as she calls it, so we write instead. I must try to do that more often as I think it will make such a difference to her.

One more visit today and then home. DS is asking about ‘going to our kitchen’. That boy reeeeeaaallly wants to go home! First the slight embarrassment of loading the car - we have so much stuff! One suitcase but then a box of picnic food, steriliser stuff, bath seat for dd, toilet seat for DS, cot mattress, box of toys, pile of coats... you can imagine! Blush

ememem84 · 08/04/2018 09:24

sea do stay. It probably helps to vent here and not in real life. I’m sorry things are tough though xx

Today should be a nsd. I’m determined it will be. We need washing up liquid. So options are - go to the shop; don’t wash up; use hand soap. I’ll probably opt for using hand soap. Just once. It’ll be fine.

cag oooh McDonald’s breakfast. Mmmm.

Ds slept much better last night. He’s on follow on milk now (although dh wants to completely wean him off it by next week.....?!), and had more real food yesterday. A banana for breakfast, porridge and apple for lunch and sweet potato and chicken (whizzed up) for dinner. He also had a ridiculously splashy bath (more water on the floor and me than in bath at one point - he brings his legs up to his chest, and pushes off the bath so water flies everywhere. He thinks this is hilarious....until the wake splashes back in his face and he gets bubble mouth! Ha!) and then we did baby massage and moisturising him. Then a story. Then bottle. Then bed at about 830 (or whenever ant n Dec finished).

He’s playing with dh now. I’m in bed with a tea. I played with ds earlier then made bacon eggs and pancakes (but forgot the baking powder so they were dense...)

We also played with him the most we’ve ever played with him Yesterday in an attempt to tire him out. Same today. Fingers crossed.

We do nursery inductions next week. Tuesday is day one. We’re there for 2 hours. First hour we’re there chatting with his key worker about him and meeting the team etc. Second one I stay with him and we play.

Wednesday is the day I take him and leave him for an hour. The nursery give me a voucher for coffee and cake at the coffee shop next door. And send me away...
Thursday he’s there alone for 2 hours Friday two hours and Monday 3 hours. Then next Tuesday he’s full time. Eeeep.

ememem84 · 08/04/2018 09:30

Have also been trying to think of naice things for dh to do with mil when she’s here. Actual nice things, not “take her paddle boarding and hope she drifts away...”. There’s a Manor House here which has a herb garden a willow maze house tours extensive gardens a farm etc. They do ace afternoon tea apparently.

Entry is £12 per adult. Membership for the year (or 1 April to end of October) is £25. Kids go free until they’re 12. So I’ve sorted this. A named member can take two adult guests in with them. So that’s something they can do.

I looked into the zoo membership but it’s £81 joint membership or £126 family. For a year. And you can’t take anyone else in. So that doesn’t help us. Dh wants to take his mum and ds so he’ll just pay the entrance for that and we’ll hope that we get given a membership! Dsis was talking about it!

Fluffycloudland77 · 08/04/2018 09:49

Don’t rule out paddle boarding just yet.

Sea Buy loads of stamps & write daily if you can. It doesn’t have to be a novel everyday but it’ll really help her. Can she access any interesting books?.

SnugglySnerd · 08/04/2018 09:56

Sorry you're having such a tough time of it Seacow. Don't worry about venting here though. It's what we're here for!

ememem84 · 08/04/2018 09:57

fluffy Wink I won’t. It’s not something. She’s ever done - despite living next to the beach in nz where they have a paddle centre. Dh and I did it when we were last there. Lovely calm water. It was fun.

SunnyLikeThursday · 08/04/2018 10:03

Christmas I nearly died laughing at that "rubs thighs" comment. I had to pass the laptop round to dh and ds as they thought I'd lost the plot entirely.

Epically stupid in the head today from sleep deprivation caused by eating salmon. It is only me who can't sleep after eating salmon?

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LonelyOversharer · 08/04/2018 10:05

em sounds a lot calmer re mil now. Is a nervy scrap before her visits normal? Ex and I used to do it before his parents visits, they were, um, eccentrically difficult. Why does dh want to wean ds off milk? I don't think thats advisable (not sure of current guidelines) afaik the "baby" milks have lots of extra vitamins and stuff that he won't get enough of in the tiny bit of food he's having just now. I'm sure ds will help overrule this decision.

seacow please stay. Your dear ds has done so well to be away for a few days. I think it only feels bad as people stare. But we should all know the difference between bad behaviour and clear autism these days. Enjoy the peace and quiet ha ha of being home again later.

I'm doing the wall (and round to the window) of the dd's shared room. Frankly it's been a disgrace with a hole down to brick and huge cracks. Then will churn the room and decorate once I've skimmed it. All toddler toys will go (out if I can swing it, loft if I can't), and will 'teenify' the room.

Just gearing up to take the high sleeper to bits. Alan key and power drive at the ready!

lifelongfrugaleer · 08/04/2018 10:18

im trying to sort out the toy area of the kitchen to fit in armchairs and a new TV. Its not working as the DC don't want to give anything up.
Off to amazon or hobbycraft for the door hanging soft toy storage. Ive been through the craft stuff and just trying to par back what we have - 1000 cars anyone? Failing that i will properly box it and put it in the loft.

Speaking to a mortgage adviser on Thursday to see what we can buy - may not have to sell this place which will be easier for hassle but more expensive initially. Going to check out a local car boot if the DC ever get dressed.....to see if it is busy enough to do a sale or 2.

ememem84 · 08/04/2018 10:25

lonely yep that’s normal for us. She isn’t here until the end of May either so there’ll probably be another row nearer the time.

No idea why dh wants to wean ds off milk. I don’t. And ds likes his bottle. So we won’t be. Not yet anyway.

Fluffycloudland77 · 08/04/2018 10:55

I would’ve thought milks there for the vitamin d so he doesn’t get rickets.

mammymammyIRL · 08/04/2018 13:19

Only stopping in briefly but rule of thumb is food for fun until they're one i.e. they get their main nutrition from milk.

ememem84 · 08/04/2018 13:24

That’s what I’d read mammy we’ve only been playing with real food for the last month (ish).

We initially tried one solid food a day vthen two and yesterday 3. So building up slowly.

Nursery will help us with this too. They have a chef, and do finger food. So that’ll be good for ds. Also to see the other babies playing etc.

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