Catching up from lunchtime
genie I've been conditioned to buy clothes make up nails hair etc. My mum did/does it so I do it. I know I could go without new clothes and getting my nails done and make up. But don't think I'd feel like myself. (That said I have enough make up to last a lifetime so maybe I won't be buying any more for a while will gratefully accept gifts though)
For me the other part is the job. I'm expected to dress a certain way and certainly when I was lawyering i had to be suited and booted everyday. No excuses.
Now my work is a bit more relaxed but I still like dressing up. Pretty sure I could get away with black skinnies and tops most days. But I feel more professional and feel like I achieve more if I'm dressed appropriately. I guess it's like playing a part in a play. I've got my costume on and I'm in character I can do
I think I've said this before too - I'm an emotional spender. Bad day - buy shoes to cheer myself up. Stressed? New top will cure it. Obviously it won't and then I have to deal with the clutter and the reduction of bank balance and this makes the stress worse!!!
We work on the basis that we cover the essentials (mortgage bills food) try and out at least 50% of what's left after mortgage bills etc into savings then the rest is free for spending.
I'm paranoid about getting back into debt again (I cleared a lot in the last few years) and freak out about it. I'm not going there again.
I am learning slowly to enjoy the better things (walks outdoors, less stuff more freedom, less stuff less stress).
Happy happy boobs!