Just wanted to say a quick thank you to all the mn'ers who recommended You Need a Budget.
DH was sceptical at first and it was a bit of a learning curve, but 3 months in we are both using it and, although money is still really tight, giving every dollar a job (we're overseas) means that we have enough and have been able to pay for some unexpected expenses over the past couple of months.
I now have half a month's buffer and it's helped me to really think about what I am spending.