Judicious June... the frugaleers continue!

[ArtemisatBrauron]

For those who like to plan ahead... god why is it not pay day already...

did you see any of my posts about his current location - up his own rear end?

stealing this one!

fluffy can I just say - inspired by you, I have started the laundry gloop thing and am v pleased with it - cannot believe how much I was paying for laundry liquid and powder (DH is an eco obsessive so we always had to get ecover which is never on sale and £££!)

Whoops sorry adora!!! Will go back and read again. Why doesn't he want to sell? I thought you wanted to come back here?? (Ok I'll go back and read!!)

Oh Dear Adora does he not want to return to the UK?

Another NSD here - fifth one this month. Have a Sainsburys shop coming today which should take us through to next Friday barring a couple of loaves of bread. I should therefore have saved £70 from my food budget. Really pleased with that!

Artimas you're welcome

Helena he doesn't know what he wants. I still have a little simpatía because he, like me, grew up with abusive parents. His are still alive and he's not ready to cut contact but doesn't want to spend moré than half an hour in their presence if he can avoid it. Moving back to UK puts us with in their reach, they think.

He loves the house here and the área, but the country drives him nuts. We sank all our savings and moré into building the house and because it's in his ñame that's another thread if he dies while living here I won't be able to afford the tax Bill in order to inheret the house and we'll lose it. Oh, and he'll still be here working once we've sold and returned.

But if he'd insisted on doing the house in both ñames instead of meekly accepting what his lawyer (and friend who has his own agenda) told him we wouldn't have the issue with inheretence.

And breath

Did the friend plan to buy the house if the worst happened Adora? I wouldn't put anything past people when profits involved.

£2 today on stuff.

My cashback for moving to santander got declined so I'm moving my account to nationwide and applying for their current account must read t&c more carefully.

Oh Adora I really hope you get things sorted, it's not going to be easy by the sound of it.
Another good day but then the roofer has just quoted for some work we need doing.......£2100 , well not shock really, it's a good price but at a bad time. Dh gets an allowance paid as a lump sum at the end of July so that's what this years will go on. Each year we say, one year it'll be like a real bonus not just going in the general pot, but each year there is debt or something essential to spend it on.
We've done generally well this year but just aren't paying off our debts anything like as quickly as I'd have liked . On the plus side of course we've stopped the spiralling of the debts and I think the reason for the apparent lack of progress is that we're still working on the house. Trouble is we still have a lot of work to do on the outside of the house (drive and garden) and we'll need a new car next year [sigh] and so it goes on!
I'll still be on these threads this time next year that's for sure

got gas and elec bill (dual fuel with EDF) and despite being really careful with both we are £208 in debt to them!! ARGH! £40 of that is just stupid standing charges too. I need to get on MSE and work out a cheaper provider - this is what comes of being intimidated by things like kilowatt hours...

Fluffy don't know. I do know that he doesn't feel secure because he married a filthy Rich woman from a stinking Rich family and so knows full Well that his wife doesn't need him to provide for her, iyswim. The up shot of that was that he pushed OH in the dirección he wanted whilst telling OH he was looking after 'us'. The banks etc here are moré than happy to exlude wives in these processes so as OH didn't argue the house is in his ñame. He could put my ñame on the deeds, but whenever Anyone tells him this he just makes not-commital noises.

He was happy going along with being the big man in the macho society úntil he had a lightbulb momento about the house, all his hard work and what will actualy happen if he dies.

3 quid posting some jeans I sold on eBay. Profit of 7 quid. Thank god for that! I have piles of stuff for eBay but I don't think I'm v good at it I need to research technique more

Adora so will your DH have to continue working there if/when you sell up and move back, or can he move his career back to the UK?

I have to 'fess up to falling off the wagon today. I took DS for a taster session at school and we had a bit of free time together. I ended up buying him a toy he particularly wanted and a toy Gruffalo for DD. And a cafe stop and a craft magazine for me. Oh well, back on the wagon tomorrow!

Spangle

No, he couldn't move his career back, but he seems to have had enough of it and wants to buy a boat and earn a living taking people out, corperate entertaining etc. úntil he Get away with just pottering about on boats. But we can't afford the boat - and around it goes.

Spent a little bit Today, it's our aniversario so £3 on a card and £10 on chocolates because there's no point me buying the fancy sailing watch he wants úntil he knows if he can Get a boat, if we can sell the house. He gave me a beautiful necklace and a genuino apólogy for his recent behaviour.

DD1 has left her new hockey stick in school and lost track of it, we can't afford to keep replacing everything they loose in school, so she's going to save up and Get another if it doesn't turn up. Does have her ñame on it.

Tomorrow I need to Get fruit juice.

Hope DD likes her Grufalo Spangle

Still on 9/16. Picked up bits and bobs on Wed and Thursday & my sister wants to go to Asda later so no doubt ill pick up some essentials!!!!!!!! You sound like you have so much going on at the moment Adora, good luck and im sure it will all work out soon.

Took the kids swimming yesterday - £2.55, so cheap compared to when we all go at weekends! £3 on supplementary snacks in the cafe. Then I went out to a caberet night my friend was performing in and had a brilliant time. Spent about £20 but it's money well spent
IMO. I don't mind spending money on exciting, memorable stuff, it's the wasting cash on pointless crap that annoys me.

*cabaret

NSD yesterday after a spendy day on Wednesday (food shopping of £60 and £34.00 in the garden centre).

Aiming for NSD again today - think I should manage it.

Need to get more stuff on Ebay - it's a bit of a crapshoot really - sometimes things sell and sometimes they don't. Doesn't seem to be a pattern to it. Good luck with your selling Raa.

Adora, I really hope your situation gets sorted soon.

Spent £3.10 yesterday in butter and flour. To bake for school fair. Annoying as we got guilt tripped by
My son who said his classmate's mother went into school and told them that if there's no volunteers the fair won't happen (which would be great as it'll mean I won't have to spend money on tat!!). I was actually fuming as I'm working full time and I don't go round badgering these people to 'go back to work and pay tax'. (This is not a post about working v non working parents - it's a rant about this particular mother!)

Spent £4 today on Macmillan coffee morning at school.

Takeaway I feel your pain, what we get here is

"but why can't you drive across town after school for one item 4 or 5 times a week? what do you mean it screws up your entire family routine and you can't afford the petrol? surely the maid is home doing dinner and putting DCs to bed, and just put the petrol on your credit card, no?"

Thanks rogue

Went in to town to browse a bit as date on Saturday. Didn't even try anything on there was nothing more exciting than clothes I already have it was quite liberating really. 3.60 on parking but had to go to return something anyway.
25 in aldi as had freezer space so went for bread and milk to freeze and some stuff you can only buy in aldi. Bought New York style cheesecake for dm when she babysits - it was 1.29
I took a bread book out of the library. I really want to make regular bread and focaccia so that will be out activity on Saturday after ballet when dd1 is too knackered to go out

Just spent £9 in the supermarket, roast chicken, fruit juice plus crisps and sweets to replace what I've scoffed this week

You are in a much more difficult position than I imagined Adora, he's lucky to have you. A lesser woman would have left. You must be very strong.

£3 on frozen fruit because my antibiotics have made my tummy bloat so I look 4 months pg. I need fruit to build my friendly bacteria back up in my tum. I am resting a drink on my "bump", that's how pg I look.

Holding my tummy in requires Herculean effort at the moment.

fluffy antibiotics can do that?! looks sadly at own paunch I just had a 7 day course and my tummy has been HUGE since. Damn wisdom tooth.

adora you are a saint - my DH would be buried in the back yard and I'd be on a flight home trying not to look guilty.

Some of them can, yes. If they are active against the gut bacteria, I took flucloxacillin which is a penicillin one.

I used multibionta supplements last time but I'm allergic to cmp so I need a vegan probiotic now which is more expense. Eating bananas and porridge helps too as its a prebiotic which helps the probiotics work.

I have ibs and am lactose intolerant so my gut is not the best anyway... Had a week of amoxicillin. Must look into vegan/ dairy free probiotics.