Husband wants me to keep isolating after 5 days

[HopeG]

Hi everyone,

I tested positive for Covid on Wednesday evening and am isolating in our spare room . I have had to miss all coronation plans this weekend and stay away from my 5-year-old son. The Government recommends isolating for 5 days.

This morning I tested positive again and my husband now wants me to continue isolating until I get a negative test. It feels excessive to me but we are going away in a caravan for a night at the weekend with my husband’s family and my husband says he doesn’t want to get it or our son to get it as then the weekend would be ruined.

He’s also planning not to go to a coronation party with our son today because he thinks people will be uncomfortable knowing I have Covid at home.

I’ve suggested I wear a mask around the house post-5 days but my husband doesn’t think that is enough to protect them.

What would you do?

I suggest you crack on with your normal lives. I say this as someone with relatives who are ECV.

Have we rewound to 2020?

Unless you are physically unwell you carry on living your life.

Oh tell him to fuck off. You wouldn’t hide away with a cold - which is essentially what Covid is

get on with your life. Why did you even test

Unless you are required to test for work, i do not understand why you are still testing. If you feel ill then you keep away from vulnerable people as you would anyway with a cold but honestly there is no need to isolate.

I would just ignore him, he is not your keeper.

It's entirely up to you what you do. Very few people are testing let alone isolating.

Government say 5 days advice, you've done that. Insisting on anything more is borderline abusive - unless you're weekend trip includes seeing people suffering with serious illness?

Given your DH also stayed at home with DC this weekend for NO REASON - he sounds overbearing and controlling. Is this normal behaviour for him?

My husband says he will move out with my son if I decide to stop isolating 😬

Tbf, my husband has had the flu since last Wednesday, we only have a one bedroom flat so nowhere else for him to go and surprise surprise I woke up yesterday feeling like death and I'm not too happy about it.

Not his fault of course but I've had two surgeries in 3 months so a lot of time off work in a relatively new job and I really don't want to be off sick again.

So I can see his point, especially if you have a trip planned this weekend.

Bit extreme

Why are you still testing?

Your husband is being sensible. Honestly, if you have the space and don't need to go out, then please do everything you can to avoid infecting others. Wait for a negative test.

One in ten covid infections lead to longer term issues - you have no idea if that could be you or your husband or child. My husband took 3 months to recover and he was in super shape, yet for a month he needed a nap just because he'd walked our child to the park. It was terrifying not knowing if this was our new future.

If you have to leave the room, wear a tightly fitting mask and ventilate all the rooms. The virus lingers in the air for hours.

Tell him to crack on, and enjoy the peace.

DH wants me to test to see if I’m still infectious

I'd be asking him how he thinks the courts will view his actions when you've followed the government's advice ffs.

I'd also be asking him if he intends to do the same when he gets Covid.

Can't you test positive for up to 90 days? Is your DH expecting you to keep isolating until then? Madness!

Wtf tell your controlling idiot of a husband to do one!

@mynameiscalypso this seems to be the latest excuse not to test. To test positive on an LFT when the virus is dead, you'd need to have so much dead virus in your nostrils that you'd probably have lots of live virus too, hence still infectious.

With LFTs, a false negative is exceedingly common, a false positive exceedingly rare.

I would not test or isolate in my own home or indeed do any of it

Are you frightened of him

@YearoftheRabbit23 Ah yes, I think I was thinking of whatever the other tests are that we used to do. I don't think it's an excuse not to test really but people were clearly told not to test within 90 days with them.

This sounds like it’s a lot more to do with control than covid. I’m sorry.

These are the rules at work. You isolate (away from work) for 5 days (we can wfh) and can come back if you have 2 negative teats. If after 5 days the test are still positive you have to stay away for 10 days.

I understand his reluctance since you are going away. However, last time I had it, I had already infected everyone by the time I tested positive. The household then all tested positive in the following days. Is he testing?

in all honesty, we don’t isolate away from the rest of the house hold anyway. Just really careful.

I think your husband sounds like a drama queen.
Personally I would be delighted to be able to escape a ton of events. I’d read, watch tv and order food in.
I went back to work when I was positive. I had no symptoms by then.
If he doesn’t calm down cough on him

In my workplace we isolate for 5 days, but the day you test positive is day 0. By that count you would have to isolate until midnight tonight anyway

@mynameiscalypso the PCR tests are far more sensitive. But still quite rare to be testing positive 90 days later, plus these days there are people getting reinfected within 3 months.