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HopeG · 2023-05-08T07:52:18+00:00

Hi everyone, I tested positive for Covid on Wednesday evening and am isolating in our spare room . I have had to miss all coronation plans this weekend and stay away from my 5-year-old son. The Government recommends isolating for 5 days. This morning I tested positive again and my husband now wants me to continue isolating until I get a negative test. It feels excessive to me but we are going away in a caravan for a night at the weekend with my husband’s family and my husband says he doesn’t want to get it or our son to get it as then the weekend would be ruined. He’s also planning not to go to a coronation party with our son today because he thinks people will be uncomfortable knowing I have Covid at home. I’ve suggested I wear a mask around the house post-5 days but my husband doesn’t think that is enough to protect them. What would you do?

Terzani · 08/05/2023 12:12

YearoftheRabbit23 · 08/05/2023 09:10

Your husband is being sensible. Honestly, if you have the space and don't need to go out, then please do everything you can to avoid infecting others. Wait for a negative test.

One in ten covid infections lead to longer term issues - you have no idea if that could be you or your husband or child. My husband took 3 months to recover and he was in super shape, yet for a month he needed a nap just because he'd walked our child to the park. It was terrifying not knowing if this was our new future.

If you have to leave the room, wear a tightly fitting mask and ventilate all the rooms. The virus lingers in the air for hours.

I think it's a good advice. A pretty young mum that I know and her son just ended up in hospital, only because she went to a work event, one evening, and caught the virus. And nobody is by default exempted from long covid or some other annoying complications. It's not ”just a cold”.

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 08/05/2023 12:30

We’ve moved on. What in earth is he worried about? I’d not have rested in the first place. I don’t think it would even occur to me to rest now.

PauseTheRain · 08/05/2023 12:43

I'm flummoxed but all the 'controlling' comments on here. Sounds like he doesn't want him or his son to get infected, or pass on infection to others. That's somehow more controlling than actively deciding for others that they should get infected?

MrsSkylerWhite · 08/05/2023 12:48

PauseTheRain · Today 12:43
I'm flummoxed but all the 'controlling' comments on here. Sounds like he doesn't want him or his son to get infected, or pass on infection to others. That's somehow more controlling than actively deciding for others that they should get infected?”

Quite. The “it’s just a cold”, “we’ve moved on” comments are very ill-informed.

Spookysnake · 08/05/2023 13:07

Terzani · 08/05/2023 12:12

I think it's a good advice. A pretty young mum that I know and her son just ended up in hospital, only because she went to a work event, one evening, and caught the virus. And nobody is by default exempted from long covid or some other annoying complications. It's not ”just a cold”.

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Of course, if she was pretty that changes everything - OP, are you pretty? If so, stay in your room until 2025.

Richvanilla · 08/05/2023 15:01

I think she meant "pretty-young" i.e. Quite young, somewhat young, under 30 perhaps?

User1685409 · 08/05/2023 16:16

Richvanilla · 08/05/2023 15:01

I think she meant "pretty-young" i.e. Quite young, somewhat young, under 30 perhaps?

I read it that the woman was pretty and thought how odd but, yes I think you're right and pretty means quite.

Terzani · 08/05/2023 22:47

@User1685409 Pretty much so 🙂

Awrite · 08/05/2023 22:59

Someone in my work had covid a few weeks ago. She was clearly unwell but well enough to work. We just kept our distance.

Even in the midst of the pandemic, I would not expect any of my family members to isolate in a room in our home.

I would hate to be married to someone not on the same page with regards to risk and decision making.

sleepwouldbenice · 08/05/2023 23:23

"Of course, if she was pretty that changes everything - OP, are you pretty? If so, stay in your room until 2025"

Seems like you are ignorant regarding the English language as well as infection...

Pussycatbeen · 08/05/2023 23:40

'Pretty, young mum' means the mum is pretty and young; 'pretty young mum' means she's quite young.

The comma would show 'pretty' was being used as an adjective rather than an adverb.

Pussycatbeen · 08/05/2023 23:42

PauseTheRain · 08/05/2023 12:43

I'm flummoxed but all the 'controlling' comments on here. Sounds like he doesn't want him or his son to get infected, or pass on infection to others. That's somehow more controlling than actively deciding for others that they should get infected?

I agree. It's controlling to force people to risk infection, not to ask people not to infect you!

Izzy24 · 08/05/2023 23:48

YearoftheRabbit23 · 08/05/2023 09:10

Your husband is being sensible. Honestly, if you have the space and don't need to go out, then please do everything you can to avoid infecting others. Wait for a negative test.

One in ten covid infections lead to longer term issues - you have no idea if that could be you or your husband or child. My husband took 3 months to recover and he was in super shape, yet for a month he needed a nap just because he'd walked our child to the park. It was terrifying not knowing if this was our new future.

If you have to leave the room, wear a tightly fitting mask and ventilate all the rooms. The virus lingers in the air for hours.

Speaking as someone with long covid and a lot of resultant health issues, I agree 100%

wafflyversatile · 08/05/2023 23:51

If you're still positive you are probably still infectious. Why not give it another day or 2 to reduce the chances of fucking up your holiday.

Also it is not just a fucking cold. Jesus fucking christ.

Youthinkyoureuniqueyourejustastatistic · 09/05/2023 21:46

YearoftheRabbit23 · 08/05/2023 09:10

Your husband is being sensible. Honestly, if you have the space and don't need to go out, then please do everything you can to avoid infecting others. Wait for a negative test.

One in ten covid infections lead to longer term issues - you have no idea if that could be you or your husband or child. My husband took 3 months to recover and he was in super shape, yet for a month he needed a nap just because he'd walked our child to the park. It was terrifying not knowing if this was our new future.

If you have to leave the room, wear a tightly fitting mask and ventilate all the rooms. The virus lingers in the air for hours.

All of this…if you’re still producing a positive LAT you are most likely still infectious.
Why would you want to risk giving your hubby and little one it if you didn’t have to.

Reallyareyousure · 10/05/2023 12:55

Floofydawg · 08/05/2023 08:54

Have we rewound to 2020?

No. People were kinder then.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 11/05/2023 16:49

I was still testing positive on day 11! If DH has expected me to stay cooped up in one room I’d have told him where to. I have no idea when I tested negative as I stopped testing

Blinky21 · 12/05/2023 09:41

Surely just follow NHS advice, which is to try and avoid others for 5 days after positive test, it's there for a reason.
Covid still has a much higher mortality rate than the flu, which is why the advice is in place. Two people I know have died from it in the last few months, one was in their 40s

TooOldForThisNonsense · 12/05/2023 10:42

Stop testing and tell him to sod off

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HopeG · 12/05/2023 17:00

Day 9 - still positive but no symptoms. So I’ve decided I’m taking my freedom and leaving the spare room. Given government guidance is 5 days and I’ve been made to stay in the spare room for these additional days I’ve decided hubby doesn’t need to know.

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Spookysnake · 13/05/2023 10:31

HopeG · 12/05/2023 17:00

Day 9 - still positive but no symptoms. So I’ve decided I’m taking my freedom and leaving the spare room. Given government guidance is 5 days and I’ve been made to stay in the spare room for these additional days I’ve decided hubby doesn’t need to know.

You've allowed him to imprison you for over a week?!

Spookysnake · 13/05/2023 10:33

Pussycatbeen · 08/05/2023 23:40

'Pretty, young mum' means the mum is pretty and young; 'pretty young mum' means she's quite young.

The comma would show 'pretty' was being used as an adjective rather than an adverb.

Err... no. That's not how grammar works. Substitute nice for pretty; you'd write a nice young man, not a nice, young man. Try harder next time.

Qashoo · 13/05/2023 12:10

This person nor the government will be there for you if you, your husband or child get long covid. Very hard to earn a living or crack on with a normal life with long covid. Best to minimise the number of infections you have as a family.

amusedashell · 13/05/2023 12:24

Your husband is right. Please listen to him.

Have you not heard of long COVID?

Please watch the recent series of ITV reports
twitter.com/itvmeridian/status/1640386542509215750?s=20

Is that what you want for your family?

www.mirror.co.uk/news/politics/government-must-not-hide-hidden-29949773

The current XBB variants are MORE likely to cause it.
https://twitter.com/VirusesImmunity/status/1609928349551403010?s=20
twitter.com/VirusesImmunity/status/1610032727406874627?s=20

Vaccination only marginally reduces the risk.

The government guidance is criminally negligent

Unlike with PCR, Still positive on LFT means still infectious
twitter.com/michaelmina_lab/status/1548550218613923840?s=20

Husband wants me to keep isolating after 5 days

Toddlerteaplease · 13/05/2023 12:26

HopeG · 12/05/2023 17:00

Day 9 - still positive but no symptoms. So I’ve decided I’m taking my freedom and leaving the spare room. Given government guidance is 5 days and I’ve been made to stay in the spare room for these additional days I’ve decided hubby doesn’t need to know.

I'm
Slightly horrified that he made you isolate for that long. That is not normal behaviour.