Husband wants me to keep isolating after 5 days

[HopeG]

Hi everyone,

I tested positive for Covid on Wednesday evening and am isolating in our spare room . I have had to miss all coronation plans this weekend and stay away from my 5-year-old son. The Government recommends isolating for 5 days.

This morning I tested positive again and my husband now wants me to continue isolating until I get a negative test. It feels excessive to me but we are going away in a caravan for a night at the weekend with my husband’s family and my husband says he doesn’t want to get it or our son to get it as then the weekend would be ruined.

He’s also planning not to go to a coronation party with our son today because he thinks people will be uncomfortable knowing I have Covid at home.

I’ve suggested I wear a mask around the house post-5 days but my husband doesn’t think that is enough to protect them.

What would you do?

do you often bow to his every demand?

Actually this is against the advice of the Irish health service. My son had COVID in 2021 and was exposed as a close contact a few months later. He did not need to be tested again, as per the health service, as they said you can test positive up to 6 months after having COVID but not be infectious.

I put post on the other week about isolating in my room. I was glad I did as no one else on family got it. He is right , it's not nice to get. It will pass v quickly I'm sure. You can look forward to next weekend
I tested negative after 4 days though so mixed with family after that and then and went back to work. My work is at high end of requirements (school) and that's only 5 days though
Are you going to work tomorrow?

Actually I think it's common sense and decency to keep isolating if you're still testing positive, as they're likely to catch it from you, it will ruin the weekend away and of course your toddler or husband could get worse symptoms as it affects everyone differently. I'd avoid giving any illness to other people, yet alone Covid, and would think that a very basic level of morality.

Does he suffer from health anxiety? This is not normal.

I think given that there's a family holiday at the weekend I probably would do as much as possible to not spread to husband and son.

DH wants me to test to see if I’m still infectious

The advice is to isolate for 5 days because the majority of people are no longer infectious after that. It's perfectly possible to keep testing positive for several weeks but you're not infectious,it's just "dead" virus cells.

I would stop isolating after 5 days if you feel quite well, that's the medical guidelines

The pandemic has been declared over. Your husband needs to pipe down and you need to get out and about.

You don't even need to isolate for 5 days now. You're supposed to be carrying on a normal unless you're poorly with it.
I work for the NHS and we're not even testing anymore

Does he control you in other aspects of your life ?

@Spookysnake the pandemic is not over. The global emergency response phase is over. WHO said at the same time as they announced this that people are still dying every 3 minutes from COVID and "This virus is here to stay. It is still killing, and it is still changing. The risk remains of new variants emerging that cause new surges in cases and deaths" (Dr Tedros)

Every new infection is a chance for a new mutation and potentially worse variant. We should be minimising infection as much as possible.

Your husband is a knob. Some hospital trusts now allow you to go in if you are positive. (Not that I agree with that)

@MakeMineADouble81 you can catch COVID more than once every 6 months. If your child previously tested negative following an infection (cleared the infection) then tested positive again, he got reinfected. But you'll not know if you don't test.

I know many people infected 2+ times in a year. One woman here on Mumsnet said she had it three times during her pregnancy!

All the variants circulating mean we cannot assume we're immune for X months following an infection.

We haven't tested for a year.

I’m sorry you have to endure living with a covid cultist. He’s ridiculous. Why take a test anyway, you should have just said it was negative.

OK let's not call it covid let's call it chickenpox- knowing you were still infectious you would stay away from others - I hope- so why would you not with another infectious disease?

Does your husband suffer from health anxiety? If not, does he realise it’s not 2020?

I wouldn’t be controlled by him. I don’t know anyone that even thinks about, tests for or isolates from Covid anymore.

@Timeforchangeithink chicken pox is most infectious before spots appear so not the same.

I would give it another day and do a test making it negative. You don’t need to isolate. If it was me I would stay in isolation for a few months just to be safe. It must be nice getting to stay in a room on your own. Does he bring you food?

I’ve been too ill to work or walk further than a few steps since catching Covid last January. I was low risk and vaccinated. So having seen how long Covid can destroy lives, I wouldn’t expose anyone to Covid who didn’t feel comfortable, if I was infectious. Between days 5 and 10, if you’re testing positive you’re probably still infectious.

All that said, it sounds like a stressful situation and I can see it must feel unreasonable that he’s so insistent.

Yawn

So your husband is forcing you to be separate from your very young son, who won't understand why mummy won't hug him or even see him, and is dictating where you can be in the house? This is pure cruelty. Stand your ground OP.

Such polar opposite views on this post! I have no idea what to think 🤔

Which is why you are best to stick to the government recommendations, which are based on evidence from the medical world, not individual peoples "views"

I don't understand why you would risk infecting the rest of your family and spoiling a weekend away if you don't need to. Nothing to do with covid, I would take similar precautions if I had flu or norovirus or anything else which is horrible and contagious and would ruin people's days/weeks.