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Friend telling me its all 'propaganda bullshit' as I'm spending day 6 in bed so poorly with it

85 replies

Kara198 · 03/01/2022 23:37

Honestly... how do you deal you deal them.
She's a close friend so I can't just cut her out but she seems to have been brainwashed by her partner and his family. One of these "omg you got the vaccine, you bought into the MSM propaganda. How embarrassing 😳 " types.
Does my bloody head in.
I've just spent my 6th day in bed with covid and have been really really poorly.
All she cares about is why I went for a pcr test when I got a positive LF. Why did I see the need to "prolong the BS" when I knew I had it.
I'm double vaccinated and she keeps saying I've proved her theory that they're a waste of time, and she then lists all the people she knows that have recently had covid and breezed through it, unvaccinated.
I'm finding it hard to articulate anything back and to be fair, I don't really have an argument relating to the vaccine! Me and my 2 close friends were all double jabbed and currently are all in the same state with it

What do I say to make her shut up 😪 how deal with it when friends have such opposing views?

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NatriumChloride · 03/01/2022 23:38

You stop being her friend. Simplez.

Tillymintpolo · 03/01/2022 23:38

You need to tell her straight - fuck off

PermanentTemporary · 03/01/2022 23:40

'Let's change the subject'

It's surprisingly effective if you mean it. Helps if you do have other things you want to talk about.

lastchristmasigaveyoumyheart · 03/01/2022 23:40

Just say you no longer want to be friends and then block her?!

Or you could try... can we just agree to disagree and agree to never speak of it again!

I've got friends that I don't agree with (though none are covid deniers), and we respect each other's opinions if they come up in conversation, or just don't talk about it.

Scautish · 03/01/2022 23:43

Just show her these two graphs - if she has any intelligence at all she will see the massive positive impact of vaccines. Science has saved tens of thousands of deaths. Your friend is a fuckwit.

Friend telling me its all 'propaganda bullshit' as I'm spending day 6 in bed so poorly with it
Friend telling me its all 'propaganda bullshit' as I'm spending day 6 in bed so poorly with it
Honeyroar · 03/01/2022 23:43

Tell her you’re sick of hearing her bang on about it - particularly when you’re so poorly, and could she change the record?

Ifartglitterybaubles · 03/01/2022 23:51

You don't do anything. I've found with people like this there is no point, you can't fix stupid.

Diditopknot · 03/01/2022 23:56

There is no shutting them up.
There is no healthy way of communicating with these people.
They cannot be reasoned with at all.
They are in intensive care beds gasping for breath dying of the fucking thing surrounded by others dying of the fucking thing right in front of their eyes and still saying it doesn’t exist so you cannot even begin to get any intelligence out of them.

So you either cut off all contact as this person is not the person you were friends with or you cut off all conversations around the subject.
Cut them off dead,
“ I don’t want to talk to you about this at all because by talking about it, you are killing our friendship”.

Don’t waste energy on it and get well soon op. Flowers

Luredbyapomegranate · 04/01/2022 00:12

Tell her that In your opinion she is talking shit - which is especially galling when you are ill.

So this is the deal going forward - you don’t discuss it further, or you don’t see each other till the pandemic is a distant memory

Hawkins001 · 04/01/2022 00:14

Tis a pickle

SouthOfFrance · 04/01/2022 00:18

Invite her over while you are ill with it & see if she says yes

I'd be distancing myself from her I think, apart from her views she sounds really rude.

HoldenCaulfieldismyhomeboy · 04/01/2022 00:49

Yes do what southOfFrance suggests! And then when she comes round poke her in the eye.

1WeekTillChristmas · 04/01/2022 00:50

Tell her to come around tomorrow for a long hug

EmmaH2022 · 04/01/2022 05:02

@1WeekTillChristmas

Tell her to come around tomorrow for a long hug
This is a great one 😂
WheresTheLambSauce · 04/01/2022 05:37

Ask her why she cares more about the chance to prove a point, rather than the fact that her supposed friend is unwell enough to need 6 days of bed rest?

workingtheusername · 04/01/2022 05:41

I don't know what your history is but I would struggle to be friends with someone who's views contradicted mine so much. I would either need to have it out or drop contact off.

GarageMusicLover1980 · 04/01/2022 05:45

@1WeekTillChristmas

Tell her to come around tomorrow for a long hug
😂😂 agreed
PurpleDaisies · 04/01/2022 05:48

I would have to make a deal to avoid the subject or not see her.

stayathomer · 04/01/2022 06:00

I had this, had covid badly in 2020, friend was amazing texting and chatting, giving me suggestions etc then it changed to how much the govt had broken her family with restrictions, how her father's life had been effed. Obviously it was true but imo covid did all of that, not the govt. I'd steer conversation away or not answer then say later I was way too tired and then it turned into 'it's probably a really bad flu'. I just eased out with a 'I'm so wrecked I'll have to talk again' because while everyone above is saying essentially stop the friendship to you, I don't agree- your friend is still in there, just maybe hurting from what covid has done to her (my friend and her husband have essentially lost their small businesses and of course there's the lack of human contact etc). Just step out for the mo maybe

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/01/2022 06:01

I love the ideas to invite her over and give you a hug. Unfortunately you’re probably no longer infectious.

stayathomer · 04/01/2022 06:01

And hope everything eases for you soon op

Mol1628 · 04/01/2022 06:09

I have had this situation with my sister. It just escalates in my experience! Absolutely batshit. I would do yourself a favour and cut her off. Don’t waste your mental energy on it. Once Covid is over maybe you could reconcile. It’s not about differing views, it’s the lack of respect of others.

rrhuth · 04/01/2022 06:22

They are not a good friend because they are pushing their views onto you when you are ill.

I would tell them you don't want to talk about covid, that you are unwell, and then I'd ignore them until I was better. I might ignore them for longer tbh but right now you need to focus on getting better.

Potatodrivers · 04/01/2022 06:30

Tell her if she is so pro choice then she should really be respecting your views and decision on the matter. Instead of kicking you when you're down. That's not what friends do, no matter how different their beliefs may be.

the80sweregreat · 04/01/2022 06:39

It's hard as I know people like this. They are very firm in their beliefs.
You either ignore / ghost her or just grit your teeth and hope that your friendship can get through it.
I think many people will fall out with others over everything to do with covid the vaccines and just all of it.
It is sad