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Arguments amongst friends over the vaccine

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janicewheeler · 30/12/2021 14:14

Is anyone else's friendship group starting to see a divide regarding the vaccine ?
I've noticed it between my close friend circle. Out of 10 of us only 4 are vaccinated. The other 6 are dead against it for their own beliefs. Which is fine. But it's really starting to bubble over recently I've noticed. I'm worrying that this is just the beginning for a massive divide in society. Being labelled a sheep and worse than the government for being vaccinated... or that anyone who has had Pfizer will be dead within 3 years.

It's got to the point I don't want to tell anyone I've got my booster booked in!!

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janicewheeler · 30/12/2021 18:15

This thread certainly wasn't created to start a bitch about the unvaccinated... I wasn't sure about getting it myself at first and then when it was announced we'd need boosters I was abit 🙄 at that, but I've chosen to do it all for myself and my family. I'm very accepting of others beliefs and reasons for not having it. What I'm not acceptable of is being made to feel like a twat for having it done and being lumped into this group of 'sheep' and 'followers'. It has brought out a nasty side of certain people unfortunately. I totally appreciate not everyone who hasn't had the jab feels this way, but a small minority do and are very vocal about it.
I made the thread out of genuine curiosity to see if anyone else is starting to experience a divide in their friendship groups like I am atm. It's actually upsetting it's come to this.

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XenoBitch · 30/12/2021 18:18

I don't see the point in having a go at people who have already had the vaccine. It is not like you can undo it.

BG2015 · 30/12/2021 18:22

I've fallen out with one friend who is anti vax! I posted a funny video about it on Instagram, just lighthearted and the video was basically saying people were idiots for not following the science but would rather listen to a mates brother on Facebook to get their covid info.

she sent me a message saying she was offended I thought she was an idiot.

I don't know what her reasons are and I'll never know because I'll never ask her.

I have said to her that it was just lighthearted and not aimed at her.

This is a 27 year old educated mum of 2! I despair. She's actually had covid twice and was quite poorly with it.

changingstages · 30/12/2021 18:25

You need to get brighter friends OP.

BrusselPout · 30/12/2021 18:28

Nope, I don't know anyone who hasn't had it

Roselilly36 · 30/12/2021 18:29

Not something I would discuss, it’s a personal medical decision as far as I am concerned and none of my business.

youkiddingme · 30/12/2021 18:34

I don't want friends who are intolerant of the decisions of others or who call people rude names. Simples.

Stormbraver99 · 30/12/2021 18:38

I don't have a clue whether my friends are vaccinated.
It's not something any of us talk about.

nojudgementhere · 30/12/2021 18:41

@janicewheeler

This thread certainly wasn't created to start a bitch about the unvaccinated... I wasn't sure about getting it myself at first and then when it was announced we'd need boosters I was abit 🙄 at that, but I've chosen to do it all for myself and my family. I'm very accepting of others beliefs and reasons for not having it. What I'm not acceptable of is being made to feel like a twat for having it done and being lumped into this group of 'sheep' and 'followers'. It has brought out a nasty side of certain people unfortunately. I totally appreciate not everyone who hasn't had the jab feels this way, but a small minority do and are very vocal about it. I made the thread out of genuine curiosity to see if anyone else is starting to experience a divide in their friendship groups like I am atm. It's actually upsetting it's come to this.
OK fair enough and I'm sorry that you're being made to feel like that - nobody should be judging you or calling you names. What keeps me going is knowing that the people who are doing this kind of thing, on either side of the argument, are in the minority and that most decent, reasonable people do not think or behave like this. Sending you💐
Shanda5 · 30/12/2021 18:45

Thankfully not.

I have one not particularly close friend who is anti vax but it hasn't been an issue.

Everyone else I know has been more than happy to have their's.

If someone was willing to fall out with me over this I would be seriously questioning whether it was still a relationship worth investing in.

Soul84 · 30/12/2021 18:50

At the end of the day. If your vaccined you can still catch it and spread it. People are acting like if you have the vaccine you'll never catch it. But since the vaccine has come out. Most people i know have caught covid. Before the vaccine hardly anyone had covid. Strange, but know one should be falling out over it. Its about choice and if youve chose to have it, great your now safe apparently so no need to worry about people who haven't had it. Common sense is easy to use and alot of people need to start using it.

ShepherdMoons · 30/12/2021 18:54

Yes unfortunately I have a good friend who is unvaccinated and very anti vax in her opinions. She's convinced Covid is part of a greater conspiracy. She never fails to mention it every time I see her and tbh now I've really had enough of it. I rarely mention Covid and have been triple vaccinated for my own health and other people.

It has caused me to feel like I don't want to spend more time with her. I'm giving her some space.

Mreggsworth · 30/12/2021 18:55

I have a couple of friends who are unvaccinated who I'm fine with we just keep our opinions to ourselves.

There is a family I've had to stop talking to as they repeatedly tell us we have injected poison into ourselves. How they care too much for their health, their children and their parents to allow them to take the vaccine, and have to listen to how they 'know too much about health and medicine' (despite both literally having to links to healthcare) to risk taking the "experimental drug". Theyve discouraged their elderly parents from having the vaccine, one who is 83, with heart disease and copd.

Kitkat151 · 30/12/2021 19:00

@janicewheeler

Is anyone else's friendship group starting to see a divide regarding the vaccine ? I've noticed it between my close friend circle. Out of 10 of us only 4 are vaccinated. The other 6 are dead against it for their own beliefs. Which is fine. But it's really starting to bubble over recently I've noticed. I'm worrying that this is just the beginning for a massive divide in society. Being labelled a sheep and worse than the government for being vaccinated... or that anyone who has had Pfizer will be dead within 3 years.

It's got to the point I don't want to tell anyone I've got my booster booked in!!

You need new friends.....yours sound vile
User0658 · 30/12/2021 19:01

It shouldn't be an issue. And if it is then your friends clearly don't respect you and you should distance yourself from them or tell them you don't want to talk about it.

I'm not getting the vaccine as I personally don't feel safe getting it at the moment. My DP, my family and his family all have the vaccine. They know my stance on it and there's been no issues. I wouldn't tell them not to get it and they wouldn't tell me to get it. My closest friends are also not getting the vaccine but I know if I changed my mind they wouldn't turn on me either.

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gogohm · 30/12/2021 19:05

No, everyone I know is vaccinated, even teens

backtolifebacktoreality · 30/12/2021 19:12

Please feel free to put me right as I am open to changing my mind if I've got it wrong ...

Whilst people have the right not to have the vaccine, isn't it selfish because they the. end up in hospital and put a strain on the NHS, meaning waiting lists are huge for general operations and cancer patients etc?

Blubells · 30/12/2021 19:13

* I made the thread out of genuine curiosity to see if anyone else is starting to experience a divide in their friendship groups like I am atm. It's actually upsetting it's come to this.*

The issue is not the vaccination.

The issue is that your 'friends' aren't friends who support you whatever your decision.

Blubells · 30/12/2021 19:16

If your 'friends' are that rude to you, you need new friends!

Whether they're vaccinated or not - they need to respect you!

XenoBitch · 30/12/2021 19:21

@backtolifebacktoreality

Please feel free to put me right as I am open to changing my mind if I've got it wrong ...

Whilst people have the right not to have the vaccine, isn't it selfish because they the. end up in hospital and put a strain on the NHS, meaning waiting lists are huge for general operations and cancer patients etc?

The vast majority of people who catch Covid do not need hospital treatment at all. The strain on the NHS at the moment is not because of people who are not vaccinated.
JaceLancs · 30/12/2021 19:24

At a guess 20% of my friends, family and colleagues are not vaccinated
We do our best not to discuss it anymore as was in danger of becoming contentious
Much happier now that we don’t even talk about Covid anymore as it’s not just about the vaccine - there were too many divisive opinions on everything from WFH, going on holiday, how often to test, furlough etc etc

Hyppogriff · 30/12/2021 19:26

Don’t think I know anyone who hasn’t been vaccinated !!

BitsAndBaubles · 30/12/2021 19:34

Most of my friends have had it, doesn't really tend to come up in conversation. I know an acquaintance who has not had it but only because a relative was given the swine flu jab pandremix and developed narcolepsy so they had concerns

MrsArchchancellorRidcully · 30/12/2021 19:59

I haven't a clue whether my friends have been vaccinated or not. We simply don't discuss it and it's none of my business.