Child positive - adults socialise as normal?

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Child did positive lateral flow yest am. Us and she booked in for PCR this am. If she comes back positive and the adults come back negative would you literally continue as you had planned or not?
We both wfh so that's no problem, have a large house and she's a teenager so perfectly capable of isolating from us/using kitchen at a different time/leave food outside her door.

But we have a couple of social events arranged over the next 10 days - not at our house - at a pub etc with friends, which have been looked forward to for a long time. If we did negative lateral flow tests on that day would you still go? Our friends will know child is positive. Will they be judging us? Is it unacceptable? Everyone is double jabbed and not vulnerable.

We have adjusted behaviour in that my cousin was supposed to be coming to stay here this weekend and now isn't, and I won't be visiting my vulnerable dad at all.

What do people think? I know what the guidelines say - we can do what we like - but what is 'socially acceptable?' (I realise there is a very wide range of opinion here on risk etc!)

His db not ds

I’d be disappointed if mine wanted to still socialise when there were positive cases at home. LFT tests aren’t foolproof by any means and I would hope they wouldn’t want to spread it to anyone who may be CEV etc.

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss but from an 18 year old they are invisable plus he will still be expected in work ? So I can see his thinking
He has stayed home though tonight anyway as we explained although mates had done it think about who he could spread to etc

[quote Tigerwhocameforsupper]@Bunsnbobbins yes I understand they would restart their isolation. But there are 7 days in between where they are not isolating and so could spread it?[/quote]
I see what you mean now sorry. Yes it shows that the current rules make no sense. I tested positive after 9 days having previously tested negative though luckily for others I’m self employed so could isolate anyway. A lot will mix with good intentions or because they have to and spread it.

Skip the large event and be honest with the smaller group. If you can meet at someone's house rather than a public place, and thus not potentially be transmitting COVID to people you're not actually planning to socialise with, then that would be much more responsible.

Surely anyone attending a public setting is aware there maybe people who might have covid? Or might have positive cases at home? So by that train of thought they have assessed their own risk and decided to go along anyway?

It’s down to personal responsibility isn’t it?

I work in a school surrounded by positive cases, I have no protection (other than double jabbed) we have whole school assemblies, and we are all having a night out tomorrow for a birthday. We all know we have all been round positive cases, and that we will at some point become ill.

If you see groups of teachers out next week be sure to stop by and say hello, I’m sure they’ll appreciate the support.

@BluebellsGreenbells but the guidanve does say avoid crowded places , wear a mask inside etc etc so putting all the pnus on us

I do wonder at what point we are going to stop being slaves to covid.

@musicalfrog

I do wonder at what point we are going to stop being slaves to covid.

Maybe when cases aren't running at 45,000 plus a day as we head in to flu Season! 😵‍💫

It’s down to personal responsibility isn’t it?
Taking personal responsibility means not going out to public places and potentially infecting others if you know there's a high risk that you have Covid because someone in your household has tested positive. Yes, people may also be at high risk of Covid due to exposure at work. In an ideal world, anyone who had knowingly recently been exposed to Covid in any setting would avoid busy public places indoors. However, in the real world it's obviously unrealistic to expect people in high risk jobs to avoid public places for weeks on end while others are free to carry on socialising. But I think a positive case at home is different because (a) the risk of infection is so high, and (b) it's unlikely in most cases to require people to avoid public places for weeks on end.

@TeamRick how many cases per day would you deem acceptable then? Honest question.

How many cases of flu /common cold /other viruses are usual per day at this time of year?

If it's not putting unmanageable numbers of people in hospital I can't see that cases alone are a very good way of measuring if one should change plans just because a family member has a sniffle (or in some cases no symptoms at all).

I do wonder at what point we are going to stop being slaves to covid.
I think the real problem is that huge numbers of people, rather than being slaves to Covid are acting as if it doesn't exist and are not even taking basic mitigation measures such as wearing masks on public transport . Our government encourages this attitude which is why we have much higher Covid rates than most, if not all, other European countries. Covid hospitalisations are already putting strain on the NHS and flu season hasn't even hit yet! And the figures for long Covid go up and up, storing up suffering and more pressure on the NHS for years to come.

When we got DDs positive we stopped all socialising and going out of house except for food shopping and DS went to school.

I am double jabbed as is DH and we were both very ill for 4 weeks with it so definitely not mild here. My oxygen sats were down to 92 at one point and I shoukd have gone to hospital in theory, i didnt as hospital is rammed atm with people waiting hours outside before accessing A&E and I had a DH who could help at home. I would not be impressed with someone just socialising without at least checking with everyone first.

DD is positive now. As a teenager she's been isolating in her room for a week and having all meals there etc she's delighted... has no symptoms. Feels fine. We all had negative pcrs and daily negative LFs. DS has a cricket match on Sunday and an indoor awards thing. Can I take him to that? The coach is ok with it but it's making me twitchy reading this now.

@bigbeachedwales honestly I would do kids things. DD has missed a ton of stuff she was really excited about due to having covid. Kids have missed enough and if he tests negative on LF then he won't be that infectious even if he has it. None of dd wider group of friends caught it even though in hindsight she was at school for quite a few days with it. Just keep an eye on how he is and keep testing . N