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DH positive, what now?

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whiteonesugar · 27/08/2021 20:10

DH has tested positive on a LFT today - which he only did because he was meant to be going to a football match tomorrow! He’s had a PCR and waiting the results.

I’m double jabbed (he’s single jabbed) and we have 2 DCs, 6 and 2.

What do we do now? Are we (me and DCs) self isolating until he gets the result (which seems futile as we don’t legally need to if it’s positive) And should DH be keeping away from us? He’s disappeared upstairs and intends to sleep in the spare room. Also, DCs have nursery and school next week, it seems wrong somehow to send them off knowing their dad has Covid!

Do we need PCR tests if his comes back positive? The younger DC had one this week due to a cough which was negative, older one and I did LFT today both negative.

Not sure what to do now tbh.

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whiteonesugar · 28/08/2021 08:31

@Oligodoodle I am hoping so! I’ll be emailing both school and nursery asking their policy on it once the PCR comes back.

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HelloMissus · 28/08/2021 08:39

When people say to let the school know, I’m wondering why.
What will the school do?

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whiteonesugar · 28/08/2021 08:48

@HelloMissus I think similar, surely it would create more worry? But I also understand some teachers may be CEV etc.
It’s so confusing- not that im surprised by this government!!

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Wtf1980 · 28/08/2021 09:14

I've been thinking the same op, if one of us gets a positive and we take the decision to keep the kids of school then what would happen to attendance?
Would it be a fine? Obviously school work as well as I have children at secondary school.

Also it could be for weeks as if one catches covid then it might work its way through the household.
I think I would speak to the school and ask them what would happen if you were to keep them of.
I have a child in a sen school and for him I would more then likely keep him of as there is a lot of vunrable children.

FeelingJittery1 · 28/08/2021 19:11

How is your husband? And hoping the rest of you are doing ok as well?

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whiteonesugar · 28/08/2021 19:16

@FeelingJittery1 thank you for asking! He’s ok, he is getting achey now, the PCR came back and confirmed positive. He’s been in the spare room all day, emerges for food wearing a mask clutching anti bac wipes and hand gel. He came down for a walk around the garden for a bit earlier, he’s very bored bless him. But renewed his passport and doing some life admin lol

Nursery confirmed they need a negative PCR to let the little one in, I’ve got tests booked for us all tomorrow morning, and also home kits coming (I ordered them first then remembered it’s bank holiday so they won’t be here til Tuesday at the earliest) we’ll keep hold of them for future. I’ll make a decision on whether they go to school or nursery on Tuesday and see how DH is, he will do another LFT tomorrow and Tuesday.

We are fine, I’m feeling tired but probably because my children have gone a bit feral at being indoors all day!

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Neolara · 28/08/2021 19:19

I think it's going to be very difficult for schools to say anything other than send your DC in ( even if they think it's madness to do so) because they have to follow government policy . I suspect that policy may change when it spectacularly kicks off in schools in Sept / Oct.

DoormatBob · 28/08/2021 19:39

Similar situation here. DW tested positive on LFT this morning and has all the symptoms and quite ill. She got a PCR booked this morning too so expect confirmation tomorrow.

I feel fine and negative LFT. We actually slept in seperate rooms last night due to shift patterns. DD (4) stayed at grandparents last night and have left her there tonight whilst working out what to do.

Grandparents could feasibly have her all week (they have offered). Should be in nursery next week.

I packed a week's worth of clothes and have gone into the spare room so DW can isolatein the bedroom.

DD just about old enough to understand but not sure she could keep away whilst in the house and not quite old enough to entertain herself if I WFH.

It's hard!

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whiteonesugar · 28/08/2021 19:55

@Neolara yea I think they will probably change policy but they’ve not given us any guidance at all yet, I don’t envy them!

I was thinking about it earlier and if the idea is that we are going to have to live with this like the flu, would you keep a whole house at home if one had the flu? Unlikely…it’s just new right now. I want to do the right thing but sometimes knowing what that is is hard!

If DS goes to school I will test him daily beforehand so surely he can’t spread anything if he doesn’t have it?

It’s just so frustrating and confusing.

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whiteonesugar · 28/08/2021 19:57

@DoormatBob if we had the option of the children being elsewhere I would take it! Completely eliminates risk to them.

We actually thought about me and the kids going somewhere else but it’s not feasible for 10 days.

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Mbl1234 · 28/08/2021 20:28

Sorry to hear this :( It’s not easy. Keep your husband away and clean the place constantly! My DH, DD and I all tested positive just as my mum was arriving back from her holidays! She lives with us. It was stressful keeping away from her but wore masks, aired the place and cleaned the house constantly and thankfully she didn’t get it. 10 days at home is dreadful. We were both not well so trying to look after our DD was difficult. Please inform your school and nursery and let them know. It’s not fun…

Mbl1234 · 28/08/2021 20:28

Forgot to add we are double vaccinated

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whiteonesugar · 28/08/2021 20:49

@Mbl1234 yea I’ve told nursery and will tell school when they open. I’ve asked what the policy would be on keeping him home.

Yep haven’t seen him all day apart from once or twice. I feel sorry for him tbh, I’m quite lonely but I can’t imagine how he’s feeling away from us all. The peace is probably nice for a bit lol but ten days is a lot

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whiteonesugar · 29/08/2021 12:07

Little update - hopefully noone minds me using this as a sort of journal!

The children and I went for our PCR tests this morning. 2 year old didn’t like it but it was done and dusted quickly but MY GOD my 6 year old was something else. He was not having it at all!! Took 40 mins and finally he let me swab him, the people there were fab and really tried to help, gave us different sized swabs etc. Anyway. Done now so hopefully they come back negative.

DH is still keeping away from us. His cough has got worse and he’s feeling like he’s getting a cold. Still not ‘bad’ but def worse than it was. He’s got a good stock of paracetamol and cold / flu medicine up there with him.

I did a LFT this morning as I need to go get some bits from the shop that weren’t available on my online delivery, and it was negative so that’s good. I haven’t worn a mask for a while but i will today.

Hopefully the next week and a bit flies by and DH doesn’t get much worse.

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mistermagpie · 29/08/2021 12:25

Similar situation here. I tested positive with a lateral flow on Thursday (had been feel a bit crap but not actual Covid symptoms) and we decided to all go for PCRs on Friday. We have three kids aged 6 and under and the 6 year old and I both got positive results. He is completely asymptomatic so that was a surprise, but I knew mine would be positive.

I'm not separating myself from the family, we are just carrying on as normal and I'm sleeping in the same bed as DH. We don't have a big enough house and our kids are too little for it to really work so we are just going to take the risk and hope for the best. My middle child had Covid last year and none of the rest of us caught it, so it's not a certainty. The younger two will be going to nursery as usual unless anything changes, which feels weird but is fine under the new rules!

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whiteonesugar · 29/08/2021 12:44

@mistermagpie it feels bonkers doesn’t it! We are lucky that we have a loft room so that’s where DH is hiding out, he’s coming down to go in the garden now and then. I wouldn’t mind just living as normal but he’s trying to minimise impact on the kids, which I respect.

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whiteonesugar · 29/08/2021 12:44

@mistermagpie hope you are feeling ok too!

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FeelingJittery1 · 29/08/2021 17:15

@whiteonesugar hope you all are feeling ok.

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whiteonesugar · 29/08/2021 17:40

@FeelingJittery1 we are ok thank you. I’m shattered and the kids are bored but we’re fine.

Waiting on our PCR results. Part of me thinks sod it let’s all get it now and get it out the way. But keeping away from DH means there’s a chance we all swerve it so that’s on my mind too! Plus I’m vaccinated so may not get it anyway which is preferable!

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FeelingJittery1 · 29/08/2021 17:43

@whiteonesugar i understand- hopefully non of you test positive

Do you post the PCR using the high priority mail boxes?

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whiteonesugar · 29/08/2021 17:48

No I booked to go to a drive through in the end as I didn’t think the home test kit would arrive til after the BH, but they arrived today! They wouldn’t be collected until Tuesday tho, so I’ll keep them in case any of us develop symptoms.

I’ve sent a test back before using the high priority and the results came back a couple of days later. Recently the drive through results have been about 10-15 hours later!

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BluebellsGreenbells · 29/08/2021 18:18

mistermagpie

You are meant to self isolate the positive case - not mix freely and send them to school.

Frazzled2207 · 29/08/2021 20:50

if it was my husband I'd be sending him to the spare room, doing daily LFTs on us all (apart from him) and hoping for the best but basically carrying on in the meantime unless/until positive LFT.

A friend's husband got it recently. Two of the three children went on to get it but she (vaccinated) and the third child did not.

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whiteonesugar · 29/08/2021 21:05

@Frazzled2207 that’s basically what we’re doing tbh!

I’m waiting on the PCRs coming back negative before I go anywhere and will attempt to avoid any prolonged contact with anyone but the DCs are SO bored they’re going a bit feral so we need to get outside!

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Frazzled2207 · 29/08/2021 22:18

yes good plan on PCRs which I believe is advised but not essential. Should give you some peace of mind for a few days anyway.

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