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Covid - Sleepover risk?

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CH79 · 24/08/2021 11:38

My daughter has been invited to a sleepover tonight. Another girl has been invited who's sister is currently isolating as she has covid.
She's on day 7 of isolation I think.

I don't know if I should let my daughter go. I'm anxious.
What would you do?

We've had to isolate a few times, and whilst I know the rules have changed it would affect mine & husbands work if the children had to isolate.

I don't want my daughter to miss out but neither do I want to put her & us at risk of covid.

I'd appreciate your thoughts.

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Didyeaye · 24/08/2021 11:40

I wouldn’t risk it

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CH79 · 24/08/2021 11:43

@Didyeaye

I wouldn’t risk it

Yes, this is what I'm leaning to. But just don't know if I'm being OTT.

Thank you.

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hotasharibo · 24/08/2021 11:48

Sorry I wouldn't risk it either.

I'm really surprised they've not kept household isolation tbf. It's great close contacts don't have to isolate but surely household members should as the risk is so much higher

takemetocedarpoint · 24/08/2021 11:48

I don’t think you’re being OTT. I wouldn’t risk it. The isolation rules have changed for children not because there’s less risk of infection all of a sudden, but to minimise disruption to school.

lawofdistraction · 24/08/2021 11:52

No way.

Also I know household contacts don't have to legally isolate anymore, but who the hell lets their kid go to a sleepover when their sibling has covid?!

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CH79 · 24/08/2021 11:53

@hotasharibo

Sorry I wouldn't risk it either.

I'm really surprised they've not kept household isolation tbf. It's great close contacts don't have to isolate but surely household members should as the risk is so much higher

Only the child with covid has isolated, the parents are double jabbed & tested negative.
The sister (one going to the sleepover) had a PCR Saturday which was negative. So nobody else isolated.

The sleepover host has said the child with covid is out of isolation tomorrow, though I was told Friday.
I'm not sure if it makes me think differently or not!?

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DumplingsAndStew · 24/08/2021 12:08

I agree that, imo, household contacts should still have to isolate.

I wouldn't be sending my child to a house with someone knowingly positive.

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CH79 · 24/08/2021 12:21

@DumplingsAndStew

I agree that, imo, household contacts should still have to isolate.

I wouldn't be sending my child to a house with someone knowingly positive.

The sleepover isn't at a positive house. A child who is attending has a covid positive sibling, but she herself has tested negative on Saturday.

I think we will be declining, glad I'm not being unreasonable!
Thanks.

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ineedaholidaynow · 24/08/2021 12:24

I would say no. I really think households with positive members should be limiting their social contacts as much as possible, even though legally they don’t have to self isolate

ifonly4 · 24/08/2021 12:26

I think you've made the right decision. Perhaps, both the other girls could stay at yours in 2-3 weeks time, so your DD can look forward to that

DaisyDozyDee · 24/08/2021 12:29

@lawofdistraction

No way.

Also I know household contacts don't have to legally isolate anymore, but who the hell lets their kid go to a sleepover when their sibling has covid?!

This was my first thought too.
ineedaholidaynow · 24/08/2021 12:32

If the parents wonder why you are declining just point them in the direction of the Boardmasters thread on here and they will see how COVID can transmit so easily between youngsters

BungleandGeorge · 24/08/2021 12:32

The parents who are fully vaccinated are at less risk of getting covid but the sibling isn’t. If there were unvaccinated adults in the household they would need to isolate, but under 18s don’t need to. It’s not based science is it? I expect they will all get it when they get back to school because of these rules, so the question is are you bothered about her potentially having covid in a weeks time? Personally I want the kids to enjoy their holiday and not miss out on the beginning of term so I’d avoid. There’s also no way I’d be sending my own child on a sleepover if they had a positive unvaccinated sibling!

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CH79 · 24/08/2021 12:40

Thanks everyone. I think I just wanted to know I wasn't being OTT or unreasonable.

I personally wouldn't send my daughter to anything knowing her sibling was positive, but we're all different I guess!

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WhispersOfWickedness · 24/08/2021 12:49

Wow, definitely not unreasonable!
I was isolating the week before last due to a close contact, on the Monday when the rules changed, I did let my children go out to play (they were also close contacts) but they were told not to go into friends houses just in case! No way I would have allowed them to go to a sleepover, and our close contact wasn't even someone we lived with, so no continued exposure!!

twinkletoesimnot · 24/08/2021 12:54

@CH79

Thanks everyone. I think I just wanted to know I wasn't being OTT or unreasonable.

I personally wouldn't send my daughter to anything knowing her sibling was positive, but we're all different I guess!

I definitely think you are not being OTT - and I think household isolations should still be in place.

However when they are back at school this will be happening every day.

AlexaShutUp · 24/08/2021 12:59

No. If the sibling of the positive child has accepted the invitation, I wouldn't want dd to go.

DumplingsAndStew · 24/08/2021 13:51

@CH79

Sorry, not sure how I managed to misread that. I would still not be letting my child attend in that situation.

Planty13 · 24/08/2021 13:56

Nope, I wouldn’t be allowing my child to attend. I cannot understand the other child’s parents tbh. If they don’t have to isolate, fine, do your shopping and what you need to do, but to willingly send their child out to socialise seems foolish to me.

SilverGlitterBaubles · 24/08/2021 14:02

I think this no isolating situation is going to get tricky as time goes on. Just wait until they go back to school and there will be close contacts of positive cases all attending and we will be none the wiser.

MrsMcAloon · 24/08/2021 14:06

@ineedaholidaynow

I would say no. I really think households with positive members should be limiting their social contacts as much as possible, even though legally they don’t have to self isolate

I agree.
When Ds had Covid, the rest of us were lucky to avoid it, but I have heard of many other families testing positive on day 9 or 10.

MrsMcAloon · 24/08/2021 14:09

@SilverGlitterBaubles

I think this no isolating situation is going to get tricky as time goes on. Just wait until they go back to school and there will be close contacts of positive cases all attending and we will be none the wiser.

Exactly!
When Ds had to isolate, because the whole year group closed, we didn't expect that he would get it. A week later, he did test positive. If they hadn't all been isolating, it would have spread much further than it did - and it did spread far!

IceCreamAndCandyfloss · 24/08/2021 15:42

No, not a chance.

I disagree strongly with the changes to isolation where there are positive cases within a household and not looking forward to winter.

Klee30 · 24/08/2021 17:07

I wouldn't let her go. The new isolation rules are too much too soon I think. Technically she no longer has to isolate if she's under 18 of course but you should still limit social contact if you are a close contact and no I wouldn't allow my daughter to go.

I feel that whole households should still isolate if one is positive in the household! I know it's not the rules anymore but it seems crazy. I get the the whole not having to isolate if double jabbed if you are pinged or contacted by track and trace. But it seems mad that say I got covid, Dp could still go to work!!

If I was the parent of the child and positive covid child I would definitely not send my child to a sleepover. If I was hosting the sleepover I would not allow said child to come.

Freddiefox · 24/08/2021 17:08

Whilst I wouldn’t send my child, this is exactly the situation we will all be in after the summer hols. Only you won’t know whose sibling has covid.

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