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My dad is in intensive care

104 replies

Lbnc2021 · 23/08/2021 17:28

I am so frightened. I need some positive stories.

My dad has some fairly serious health issues but does not sit at peace, he’s a workaholic. He was one of the first to be double vaccinated.

He’s now in a critical condition and is on a ventilator. The doctors are taking it hour by hour. I’m just so numb. I’m not ready to lose him, he’s my world.

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NightOwl19 · 29/08/2021 19:10

I'm so sorry OP, sending lots of positivity your way

coviditu · 29/08/2021 19:14

OP, have lived this particular nightmare too with my DH. 4 months ventilated in ITU on a continuous rollercoaster of organ failure, septic shock twice, can't tell you how many times me and the DC nearly lost him. But he survived and is doing well after many further months rehabilitating in hospital.
If you're on Facebook, see if you can join the 'critical care support network' group. It's for ITu survivors and their families, and an offshoot of ICU steps. Who is liaising with the ITU staff for your Dad, if your poor Mum is in hospital too ? Best of wishes OP xx

Bubbublish · 29/08/2021 19:20

So sorry to read your update, hoping both your parents recover

WingingItSince1973 · 29/08/2021 19:23

So so sorry to see your update. Not sure will give you any comfort but my neighbour was I'm itu for 4 months. Didn't think he would make it but then he gradually came back. Hes now home and although still weak, he's proved everyone there's still hope. Xxx

LazyDaisy22 · 29/08/2021 19:26

Thinking of you and your parents OP. Sending you all my best wishes.

MazyontheDipper · 29/08/2021 19:30

So, so sorry. Please try to focus on the positive stories if you can. I know it's not easy. What you need to do now is to eat, takeawys if you don't feel able to cook, and sleep. When they come through this, which I believe they will, they will need a strong capable daughter, so do it for them. Calming stuff; candles, bath stuff anything which will make you feel a bit better. I'm sorry I can't be any more help, but am thinking of you. Take care, love.

Blueskyrainshowers · 29/08/2021 19:32

Lots of love. I'm thinking of you all Flowers

Nc4post99 · 29/08/2021 19:38

Sweetheart, I’m so so sorry! I’ve been there a month ago with my dear father, it is really horrible. The machines, the atmosphere, to the pity in the eyes of the staff when they look at you.

What I’d say it’s the ITU/ICU is a rollercoaster, especially when any sort of life support is involved. One day you think it’s looking up and then bam something comes up. What is so important is that you take care of yourself physically and mentally during this time.

The ITU will have counsellors, can you ask to speak to one?

Are you a person of faith? Would talking to a chaplain be something worthwhile?

Have you managed to speak to his consultants?
Don’t compare your dads journey to anyone else. I sincerely hope your dad gets better, for what it’s worth you’ll all be in my thoughts and prayers xx

PlateSpinnerJuggler · 29/08/2021 22:07

@Lbnc2021

I can't advise you on COVID specifically - but I have been through ICU with close family members similar age and much younger - some with positive and some with not so good outcomes and I just want to reach out to say you got this!

Life can throw some sh1t our ways at times and isn't all roses - it truly can be a real rollercoaster- but stay strong - be their rocks - call and hound the Hospital - advocate for your loved ones - never feel you're calling or asking too much - and keep yourself as strong as you can - it's a hard road - but you can do it!

We're all here for you as well as your friends and family - stay strong X sending hugs ur way!

Shitfuckcommaetc · 29/08/2021 22:12

I know this is hard. I've been there.
My mum was 59 and caught covid in January.
She was in a coma & on a vent for 10 weeks.
She survived, it was very touch and go, even the doctors said after the fact that they didn't think she would pull through.
She was down to 30% lung function at one point.

So whilst now it seems bleak, there is hope look for the positive in every update you get, even if its tiny

Flowers
Vallmo47 · 29/08/2021 22:18

I’m very sorry OP. I hope you have amazing support from friends and other family members but in the event you don’t, or need more, feel free to speak to us anytime.

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Lbnc2021 · 29/08/2021 23:06

Thank you so much for all your messages.

I had a massive panic attack earlier. That’s been a week now he’s been in intensive care and it’s just too much.

He’s now been put on dialysis. He’s on pretty much maximum everything.

The nurses are only speaking to my brother as they don’t want to be called away too much from him. My brothers have both taken time off work but I can’t, I need to keep busy. Plus I’m self employed and have a prick of an exhusband who can’t be relied on for anything so everything is on me. I have good friends around me. Some who I thought were my best friends haven’t been asking as much but hey ho. If I see one more person put up on Facebook that it’s just a bad cold I’ll strangle them. Nearly lost the plot earlier when I seen one Facebook friend boast that they hoodwinked the trace and trace thingy going into a pub last night, it angers me so much.

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LifesTooShortYOLO · 29/08/2021 23:14

Sending lots of hugs and prayers OP you sound like your strong and so does your Dad 🥰 xx

Karwomannghia · 29/08/2021 23:16

So scary for you. Really hope he’s on the mend soon.

Covidiom · 29/08/2021 23:37

OP I’m so sorry about what is happening to your dad. My only concrete advice I have to offer is to reach out to those friends you feel disappointed in. They don’t know what to do or say- give them something to help with.

Sleeplessivy9 · 29/08/2021 23:40

Hugs going out to you! I know exactly what you mean and this angers me too, especially the anti vaxxers.

My husband ended up in hospital, and we are not out the danger zone, so each day is a new battle. I got covid too, and whilst I'm double jabbed, completely healthy with no conditions, I have felt rough with some of my symptoms. This delta variant is nasty!

Take all the time you need to get through this and dont read too much on the Internet. It can be incredibly scary. Xxx

lifehappened · 30/08/2021 00:51

So so sorry. Stay strong! They will both pull through. The NHS is amazing!!

NatriumChloride · 30/08/2021 00:58

So sorry to read this OP. Sending love and praying for your mum and dad. Xxx

RuthTopp · 31/08/2021 09:23

@Lbnc2021

Hi op , how are your parents doing, and hope you are coping with all this.

Original poster
Lbnc2021 · 13/09/2021 14:13

Just wanted to update everyone

My wonderful dad passed away on Friday evening after a 3 week battle. My heart is broken in two 💔

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toughdaay · 13/09/2021 14:15

Oh OP I'm so sorry. I read your post and had been wondering how your DDad was doing. How is your DM?

Mynameismargot · 13/09/2021 14:18

I'm so sorry for your loss Lbnc2021. Look after yourself Flowers

riveted1 · 13/09/2021 14:18

@Lbnc2021

Just wanted to update everyone

My wonderful dad passed away on Friday evening after a 3 week battle. My heart is broken in two 💔

I am so sorry for your loss Flowers

How is your DM doing?

Original poster
Lbnc2021 · 13/09/2021 14:18

She was released from hospital about a week ago, she was doing ok but obviously now she is just shattered. We were all with him when he passed and it was very peaceful. The ICU staff were just amazing, I will forever be grateful. The staff in the original ward by mum was in, and where my dad was released from to go back home only to be rushed into intensive care the next day, not so much and we’ll be taking their treatment and ‘care’ of my parents further at a later date but that’s another thread.

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Introvertedbuthappy · 13/09/2021 14:20

I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss ThanksThanks