DD housemate tested positive

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As above. DD's housemate been away from home staying with family and has now tested positive while away. She can stay there but doesn't want to do wants to come back home where she shares with 5 others meaning they will all now need to self isolate. None of the housemates are happy about this although they can't really stop her coming back to her home. I think she's being a bit selfish. Am I?

That should be am I wrong in thinking she's selfish.

Yes. Very selfish. Can your daughter come home to you for a couple of weeks before her unpleasant roommate arrives ?

if she's tested positive she should now be isolating where she is. she should not be moving around and spreading it. it's completely selfish

The housemate is being selfish. She should stay where she is and not risk infecting other people.

that is ridiculous,
the damage is done in her household

Not really. It's about 200 miles away and selfish housemate wants to go home today. DD has to work so no time to get back before selfish housemate returns. I'm quite cross on DD's behalf. It means all her plans for the week and a half are now scuppered.

So are her family not going to isolate as she’s going back to house share?

How long has she been staying with family? Has she already been in close contact with housemates previously anyway? Eg, just the weekend or a few days away?

She's been away a week or so already so not been in contact with the housemates.

That’s really annoying. How is she travelling back?

That sounds ridiculous.

They need to speak as a group and tell her straight.

I find the young adults I know need a bit of encouragement to stand up to the CFs they inevitably encounter in the wider world.

They all need to stick together, and tell her they will not accept her coming back and putting them all into isolation. They could remind her that she is not allowed to travel and could get into trouble for doing so if they report her.

Will Test and Trace be in contact with her to tell her not Uk travel? I’ve lost track of what is happening with positive people these days.

• not to travel

It is unfair to expect the others to have to Self isolate. Get the housemates to tell cf housemate they will report her and she risks a large fine. Doubt she will get one but the thought may make her rethink.

Definitely out of order. Agree with others that they should all tell her to stay put. It’s not like she can physically go to work anyway

Yes very selfish but I can also understand her wanting to be in her own place if she feels most comfortable there. But she should ride it out and stay at her parents for sure! Stupid to bring it back to the house with housemates.

She’s irresponsible. They should all tell her together to stay with her parents. She shouldn’t be travelling anyway.

She’s missing work anyway so why should the other house mates miss their? I’m so cross for your DD.

dd's housemate did the same, vanished home when she tested positive, then went to stay with friends, tested positive, and came back to the shared house!

how is their vaccination status?

I guess it depends where she is now? If she's with her parents, she should definitely stay put, but if she's staying with more distant relatives, or elderly relatives and has her own car to travel back then I guess I can see why she'd want to.

Blimey I'd be cross about this if it was my DD, she should stay where she is and not inconvenience everyone else!

My DD is still in her uni house at the moment and she received a message from a friend on her course to say she had tested positive. A couple of days later she bumped into her in town and she came over to give her a hug! What on earth was she thinking. DD was raging.

Only SH (selfish housemate) is double vaxxed - works with vulnerable people. All other housemates have only had one jab. SH's DM and stepF have to isolate so she should stay with them. I know she has a uneasy relationship with them, but even so.